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At breaking point

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TinyDancer45 · 27/12/2022 11:28

My son's dad has not returned my six year old despite court order. He is telling me he is keeping him an additional five days and said if I try and retrieve him he will call the police on me. He does this routinely and it's as though the court order doesn't matter to him because he knows if he breaks it, I don't have the money to do anything about it.

He's taking me to court again despite a barring order in place due to multiple vexatious applications and I'm waiting to find out what's going on.

I'm at the point where I just feel I have no agency and there's nothing I can do. The court order is basically used to keep me in line and not him. I feel so angry and sad about it all.

Has anyone been in this situation and how do you cope? I've got to talk to Cafcass soon and I wonder how best to frame what's going on and the impact on our lives. I don't feel like Cafcass always get it.

Any advice really appreciated.

OP posts:
Hopeyoursproutsarealreadyon · 27/12/2022 17:42

At least get advice from the police
You are letting him dictate the police aren't to be involved. He doesn't get to decide that. I agree the police can enforce the court order as it is an official document..

Soothsayer1 · 27/12/2022 17:44

I dont have enough experience to give advice OP except to say please log everything he does and keep all comms in writing if you can.
So sorry you're having to cope with this🙏

windmill4865 · 29/12/2022 16:50

Hence ex CAFCASS :(

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 29/12/2022 16:52

Go back to court to enforce the order. You don’t need a solicitor you can do it yourself.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 29/12/2022 16:53

But in the meantime speak to the police again about a welfare check

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