For being upset with DH

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I had a traffic accident a week ago, three days in hospital, surgery and while I'm much better, I'm not safe on the stairs on my own, get tired and weepy fast, am on beauty pain medication.

For the mornings since I've been home, DH has been refusing to get up. Our three year old and I have been stuck upstairs since we woke at 7am because he won't get out of bed. We are both hungry. Three year old is bored and being a pain and I need a sleep in my chair by the fire downstairs. DH is getting snappy with 3yo and ignoring my very reasonable statements such as 'we need to go downstairs' 'I need to stretch my legs' - honestly, I only had to wait two hours for help at the hospital - at this point I kinda want to go back!

Time to read DH the riot act

Dh isn’t looking after you at all; I would treat a sick dog better tbh

He sounds shit. How direct are you being? Not that you should have to be.

Wow what an absolute bastard. I don’t have any advice except do not have another child with him. Think about your long term future. Is this what you want to teach your child, that’s how you treat someone you are supposed to love?
You may as well be on your own if this is how he treats you.

That is disgraceful. Disgraceful. Is there a drip feed about him working shifts or something? Get a bunch of snacks upstairs for if this happens again but it bloody shouldn’t.

No, he's off for a fortnight for Christmas!

Go and stay with someone who will look after you. That is absolutely disgusting.

Another man who thinks looking after his own child is beneath him.
He is also showing you how very little you mean to him.

Read him the riot act you could end up back in hospital T this rate then he’ll have to look after dc
tell him if he can’t step up then you will need to phone someone else to. One and look after you tomorrow and then mean it and do it
uou need looking after

So the 3 year old has had no food since he woke up because your husband wants a lie in? Hi, neglect, how are you? Why are you even allowing this? He has 2 options, step up or step out. Your son deserves better than this, breakfast is a bare minimum the poor poor love.

Might as well be a single parent. He's not parenting and he's not caring for you. At this point what does he bring to your life?

What an absolute shit?! That is appalling!

Id honestly ring my mother in law and tell her how selfish her son was being!!

Can you go and stay with your parents? And also divorce this selfish and neglectful arsehole!

What time is your DH waking up?

Op I am horrified by this. Your husband is showing no compassion or respect to you at all. And is neglecting the basic needs of your three year old. Absolute selfish dickhead. Threads like this make me so, so thankful for my own partner.
I never throw around LTBs but I would seriously consider the future of my relationship with somebody so selfish. I hope you are ok.

This. I'm sorry, OP

He sounds like a grade A selfish bastard. Is he usually like that?

I mean for me they’d be no coming back from this. I’d assume there is a back story too

He sounds like an utter twat, do you have anyone else who can look after you?

That's shocking. I'm recovering from a hip op and sleeping downstairs. My DH has insisted on sleeping on the sofa to be on hand to help me get up when needed, day and night. He's also waited on me hand and foot since I've been home. Your DH sounds very selfish, especially as you have a small child I'm sorry you are in this position - it would be a dealbreaker for me.

Posts like this enrage me. I wouldn't treat a dog like he's treating you and your child. Do you have family/friends who could help you? Honestly, I couldn't get past such cruelty.

People lives not a soap opera, but I can't help feeling this has gone tits up in more ways than one.
Hope it works out for everyone in the long run but no progress has been made I wouldn't be very happy with the colleague tbh.

@stripedsox I think you might have posted on a wrong old thread?

spider I have 😳