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AIBU?

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Original poster

To stay at home and do bu**er all??

19 replies

GoodnightJude1 · 27/12/2022 07:42

We’ve had a very busy Christmas…
Been here, there and eveywhere visiting family and friends. I hosted Christmas Day and really enjoyed it but it was full on. I’ve had a awful chest infection the last few weeks and the cough is still keeping me up at night and honestly I’m shattered 😴
DH is taking DS18 to an event today and overnight and other DC are ALL out today and overnight (this rarely happens!)
Ive been invited to the pub tonight with friends. I’ve been invited to a birthday meal out and drinks with some other friends and another friend has offered to come and keep me company and get wine and a takeaway.
I appreciate all the invites, I really do but AIBU to just want to put my pjs on and lay on the sofa eating chocolate and drinking wine…on my own?

I feel all peopled out and would just love an afternoon/evening on my own. DH says I’m being boring and should go out and enjoy myself but I know I’ll enjoy myself on my own with sole control of the tv remote for once!!

Am I being a grumpy old git? Should I go out? Or should I take the opportunity to do what I want for once??

OP posts:
FrogsHiccups · 27/12/2022 07:43

100% take this opportunity OP!

AlJalilia · 27/12/2022 07:43

You deserve an evening on your own. Enjoy!

MirandaWest · 27/12/2022 07:43

Definitely do what you want 😊

Ibouncetothebeat · 27/12/2022 07:43

Nope, tell them exactly that! They will understand.

CheshireDing · 27/12/2022 07:45

sounds great

DH can mind his own business

BCBird · 27/12/2022 07:48

Do as u please. Chocolate and tea is my combo. Enjoy.

Original poster
GoodnightJude1 · 27/12/2022 07:51

I knew you’d all understand!!!

I think DH is just worried that our friends will think there’s something wrong if I don’t go out…I’m usually first in line for get togethers/drinks. I just feel like I can’t let the opportunity of an empty house pass me by!!

OP posts:
Mol1628 · 27/12/2022 08:07

I hate being told what to do. Do whatever you feel like you deserve it.

ForfuckssakeEXHstopbeingatwat · 27/12/2022 08:45

Well there is something wrong..you're recovering from being ill and have a v busy few days. I have a stretch of days alone while my kids are away and I'm bloody loving it. Tell your DH to stop caring more about what other people think than what you want.

SouperNoodle · 27/12/2022 08:47

Night in PJs on the sofa sounds divine!! Enjoy!

Polarbearyfairy · 27/12/2022 08:49

100% take the day to yourself and stuff what other people think!

As a PP said, there is something wrong, you need the time to recharge and recover. You DH is prioritising the needs/thoughts of others over yours - get him out of the door to the event and do what YOU want to for the evening!

PriOn1 · 27/12/2022 08:50

I’m with you! Sounds blissful. Ignore DH and have a lovely evening.

Ledkr · 27/12/2022 08:52

I'm sat in bed after a big coughing night following 2 busy days. I'm trying to assess whether I'm a bitch if I don't go to in laws today as planned. (100 miles away for 2 nights) reasons are not wanting to pass on my germs. Not really feeling like the journey or being in someone's house when ill and coughing all night disturbing everyone. Dh knows I hate going so he will probably assume I'm trying it on so I don't have to go but I really don't feel at all well.

I think u should do what makes you happy op.

Clarinet1 · 27/12/2022 08:54

YANBU! Although in a sense, there is something wrong with you - you’ve been ill, sleep-deprived and tired! The best thing for that is rest, relaxation and, preferably, an early night which is what you want to do.

justasking111 · 27/12/2022 08:54

My Duracell bunny DH thinks I'm boring, lazy. I'm all peopled out. Was ill four days last week, so last minute rush then two days of full on families. He'll want to do something worthwhile today again sigh...

Original poster
GoodnightJude1 · 27/12/2022 10:58

Well that’s decided then! Thanks everyone for confirming what I already knew - I need a night off!! 😴

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Bettyboop3 · 27/12/2022 11:25

I, for one, am very jealous. Enjoy your evening and your own company.

Minfilia · 27/12/2022 11:52

NBU at all!

Christmas Eve I was manically prepping house and food for guests, plus gifts. Christmas Day - cooking nearly all sodding day and entertaining families x 2. Boxing Day - mass tidying/cleaning then 3 hour round trip to drop DD at the airport.

Today I am on the sofa with my blanket watching old movies and drinking coffee. It’s bliss.

browneyes77 · 27/12/2022 13:00

Absolutely have that time for yourself!!

My DP has ants in his pants and wants to be doing something all the time because he gets bored easily.

I’m happy to just be left the hell alone, with some wine, snacks and some good tv!

Enjoy!! 🍷🍷🍫🍫

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