Sorry this is going to be a long one!
I’ve been living with DP for 2 years now, before that he was happily living in his “bachelor pad” alone for about 4 years. We have a 6 month old DS together.
we are having serious relationship problems at the moment, we’re due to get married this summer and he’s said to hold off picking a dress (heartbreaking thing to be told).
The main problem which has been ongoing for as long as I’ve lived with him- he listens to podcasts at night time out loud. He does this to fall asleep but also does it in the middle of the night if he wakes up and can’t get back to sleep.
This was annoying before we had a baby but now it’s infuriating. When I ask him to turn it down he gets so annoyed and claims I’m always telling him what to do in his own house (i moved into his place) and that he “cant even listen to a podcast in my own house” (he pays the rent and I pay for everything else in the house bar one bill but we have a family now so I expect him to call it “our” house but he won’t)
Anyway it came to a head on Christmas Eve, he played his podcast to get to sleep, I asked him to turn it down and he did after some grumpy words but it was at 3.30am in the morning when he put a podcast on again and woke me up (from my sleep in between waking up to breastfeed DS) I angry-whispered at him to turn it down or turn it off or sleep downstairs on the couch.
He got up angrily and slept down on the couch. That was the first time he ever slept on the couch. On Christmas night me and DS stayed in my parents as scheduled but tonight I’m home and DP has decided to sleep downstairs again.
AIBU to tell him what to do in terms of listening to these podcasts “in his own house”? Am I being controlling? Is there another way around this? (He won’t use earphones-refuses to)
Is our relationship doomed and now he’s sleeping on the couch and loving being able to listen to his podcasts all night will he ever come back upstairs or are we totally down the drain?