DH constant complaining about present

[Alaimo]

For background: DH and I usually just get each other something small for Christmas, a couple of books or a boardgame.

Last year I received a one-off Christmas bonus from work, worth a few thousand pounds. I thought it would be nice to use part of that money to buy DH and myself new skis for Christmas. I took DH to the ski shop so he could select a pair of skis himself. The ones he really wanted were not available in his size/length anymore so he ended up choosing different ones.

Every time we've been skiing since (a week last winter and a week right now) he has complained about the skis I gifted him. How he hates them, how he much preferred the other (sold out) ones, how he can't ski on these... it goes on and on. Today I snapped and told him I thought his constant complaining was incredibly rude and that if he hates them so much he can give them back to me so I can sell them on ebay. (I wouldn't even mind if he sells them on ebay and buys skis he prefers, I'm just utterly fed up of the constant complaining about a present that I spent a lot of money on.)

Anyway, after telling him I thought his behaviour was rude he's retreated to the bedroom to sulk. AIBU to expect a bit more gratitude from an adult, even if a present does not live up to one's expectations?

If he had a real preference for the other skis, and they weren't in stock at the shop, he should have said that he wanted to find and order them online instead. He didn't do that, it was his choice to get the other skis. Don't let this be turned into your fault.

But then what you do is say - I'm sorry - I was too quick to choose these, I am afraid I really need to change them. I do appreciate the gift though. And then do something about it - not just fucking whinge like a child.

It’s daft to buy skis that don’t fit

Sell them and get some new ones

its annoying he’s complaining, but it’s also a bit bizarre to have go them in the first place

If he said something like "sorry love I buggered this up as I just can't get on with these. Can we sell and get the other ones?" I think that's fine. But the constant complaints are rude and childish. I get why you're hurt OP

Ask him why he’s moaning to you, sounds like he chose them, or did you put a gun to his head and force him to buy them?

I know where I would’ve shoved the skis by now

As much as you want pay. Start low hundreds and off you go. Plus bindings then you'll want some special wax or they will need tuning. Skiing is a fantastic way of throwing money at something.

And that is what I have said! In response to you or somebody else that said it was very very hurtful to say that the skis don’t fit.

Anyone who can afford to go skiing over Xmas can surely afford to rent some different skis.

He sounds like a petulant dingdong
i could not put up with my life partner being such a fun sponge

He's rude and ridiculous. He needs to approach the problem like an adult and not a child.

Classic case of throwing your toy out of the pram. He can sell them if he wants and get a pair he loves

I agree. Sell him, the ungrateful twat. How much do you think you'll get for him?

Sell the husband and the skis. But yourself some something nice and enjoyable.

ungrateful spoilt git.

Take them, sell them and tell him he can make do with the rentals next time.

It's the whining that's out of order.

He should have said these skis aren't really suiting me, I think I'd like to try to sell them and use the money to get that other pair. Is that ok? Then that would have been far better.

Mardying about them is annoying.

If he really doesn't get on with the skis, then , acting like the adult he is, he could have said something along the lines of "Alaimo, I'm not really getting on with these skis. Would you mind if we sold them and used the money to get some that might suit me better?" Right when he first decided they didn't suit him. It isn't your fault that the ones he wanted were out of stock. Maybe he could have waited until they were in stock, or ordered a pair?

Instead, he's taken the child's way out and made it your problem.

What a twat he is. Keep to the usual, lower value presents in future.