Not having many friends as approaching 30

[Hellothere23]

Hello , I hope you had a Merry Xmas.

I just wondered if others feel that they don’t have many friends as they approach 30/in their 30s and if it’s possible to turn it around?
I have felt this way on/off in my 20s, 29 now, and it looks like my friendship group that I’ve had for about a year and a half now has come to an end..

As much as I do like my own company, I just wonder if others have experienced the same.

I don’t feel it is a “me” problem, per se, but also don’t want to be judged or have potential partners judge me for it should it come up as that has happened in the past.

Have you had kids, you may well find mums groups help in time.

Hello, not not had kids

Can I ask why your friendship group has come to an end?

I don't have many friends at all. But I have met a lovely group of mum friends. I spend most of my time with my mum and sisters tbh!

Hi op are friends at different life stages? Alot mine have gone stale but its a mix of elder parents sn kids etc so alot more going on. We 50s though.

Wait until you're 45 then you're Norma no mates! On a more sympathetic note yes, that was when friendships dropped a bit, people got married, moved away, or were working all the time for promotions. I found another group of friends until I got my own partner and family at 35, and then I was the one who drifted away. I am quite happy with a handful of old and newer friends I see a few times a year. Or I suppose if I'm honest, I try not to be sad or reflect too much. It's how life moves and shifts.

Hello, sure…

well it seems that over the last few days, everyone has left the group chat , I only saw it today as been busy etc.

one person left and I think it inspired others to follow suit.

basically one person is v passive aggressive and has been quite rude over the last few months, and the rest of us generally all get on.
but as well as us being busy with our own lives - that has created a hostile environment
i have one that I speak to more often and I think is more my vibe and another one that I also like, but the other two aren’t really for me (on a 1-2-1 level)

we last met up as a group about 2 months ago? But the passive aggressive one didn’t attend. Regardless, was still a good time

so kinda hard to pinpoint what it is but I think as a group we won’t be meeting up anymore - we have just been doing our own thing and as subsets , and there hasn’t been much engagement as a group.

that’s totally fine as we all have lives, but I think everyone leaving the chat over the last week etc has sealed it. I was just the last one to notice

one of them messaged me day before yday to say merry Xmas and that she hopes to catch up soon (we both recently moved) - I didn’t know she had left the group a few days prior at that point, and the other one I mentioned I like we’ve been in touch recently too and she mentioned she’s left (she was the first person to leave the chat) as she’s leaving quieter groups ahead of the new year and that she hopes to catch up soon

Hope that makes sense. I’m trying to be careful with what I say on here so it’s not too identifiable (just in case haha)