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AIBU?

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AIBU to be done with my MIL?

7 replies

ItsPurple · 26/12/2022 16:09

Been with my BF for 11 years, we have two brilliant kids, we are fairly young. Have our own home.

But I am SICK to the back teeth of how he makes excuses up for his mum. This has been a constant disagreement in our relationship that I am honestly ready to throw the towel in & tell him to move out.

She couldn’t be bothered to come & see her grandkids yesterday as she was “sick” but in my BFs words it’s not the kind of sick that’s contagious, even though she cooked & invited most of the family to her home yesterday.

But she was too sick to come to ours. We live two minutes away. We used to go to hers on Christmas Day but stopped since my BF & his mums new husband don’t get along for reasons far to deep to get into.

Now if she’d have said I’m just a bit busy is it ok to come round tomorrow or through the week that’s absolutely fine but she hasn’t seen the kids since august & she simply said I won’t be coming I’m sick. So my BF had to walk to hers to get the kids presents. But she seen all of her other grandkids.

So AIBU to simply cut her out completely but also that my BF should have pulled her up about this? Which he won’t & he hasn’t.

This has been a build up of things over 11 years & yesterday was just the final straw for me. I’ve never been horrible to her she simply doesn’t like me because my BF is her favourite son. It’s pathetic. Sorry for going on. I’m sure I haven’t explained it properly. I just feel sad for the kids & annoyed my BF doesn’t ever back me up.

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LimeTwists · 26/12/2022 17:03

If you don’t on with her and your partner doesn’t get on with her husband, then surely it’s not going to make for a very atmosphere so isn’t it better that you didn’t all meet up? I’d cut her off for this reason. He can see her on his own if he wishes. She will miss out on seeing the children but if she’s only seen them once since August despite living two minutes away, then clearly she’s detached herself from them already. I’m just surprised your partner isn’t questioning why his mum is so clearly snubbing his children. Is he generally averse to conflict?

LimeTwists · 26/12/2022 17:04

*get on

LimeTwists · 26/12/2022 17:04

*pleasant atmosphere guess who is on the strong stuff

Hopeyoursproutsarealreadyon · 26/12/2022 17:06

Imo agreed to both never mention her. He can support any relationship he wants her to have with the dc. You need to back away. Stay home. Embrace the peace.. Ime it's fucking liberating...

Ravenrobin309 · 27/12/2022 18:46

Sounds like my MIL. Our relationship has broke down over the last few months. I finally told her straight after years of taking her shit and now she's saying she will only see the kids at her house with Dh but I'm not welcome. CF. I don't trust her with my kids without me there. DP can't stand up to her and she's a complete bully.
Is your MIL good with your kids? If so you can just encourage dp to do the visits and you just take a big step back.

Rogue1001MNer · 25/05/2023 21:43

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