To want DH to stay still and just sit with me?

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I’ll probably be flamed but here goes.

Toddler has been unwell for what feels like forever, although in reality it’s only less than a week. He only wants me. I am feeling a bit suffocated as if I go to the toilet he cries pitifully, so for much of the day I am trapped under him.

Meanwhile DH is up and about cleaning. I should be grateful, I know. But I’m stuck. I can’t get a drink, change the TV channel, do anything. I’m low and I want another adult around.

Go on - flame me.

So yeah. I am being a martyr if I don’t have to hear that I will starve, dehydrate, get a UTI, put up with an annoying programme. I CANNOT BEAR IT!!

Merry Christmas.

I know you say he just wants you - and I know this will be true. But that doesn’t mean that if you need a break you shouldn’t have one anyway.

Get your DH to take over for a minimum of 1.5 hours.

So go out and leave DH to deal with the screaming toddler.

At least YOU get a break that way, even if all you do is sit in the car or go to McDonald's for an hour or two.

Claiming you'll get a UTI because your baby can't be left with its own dad is being a martyr. If you can reach your phone you can reach the tv remote.

Shout for dh to come here, theb ask him to get you a waterbottle and the remote. When you need a wee, hand the toddler to dh and go get one.

Yes your child will cry. Tough.

Are you giving calpol/neurofen every 4 hours?

What happens if you stick him in the buggy and go out? Dies he still scream even with interesting stuff to look at? Would he watch an iPad?

I have been in this position OP and it is lonely and suffocating and feels like it will never end!! I'm sorry for you, especially as its Xmas. I hope he's better soon and in the meantime you manage to grab your other half as he's passing through to sit with you for a bit of company and conversation.

Ring the landline to talk to your DH, is what I do when I'm stuck somewhere and he can't hear me yell (since he never hears his own phone)

I mean if this isn’t being a martyr I don’t know what is?
You’re in your own home, with what sounds like 1 toddler and 2 parents. If you need a drink carry the toddler into the kitchen to get one, if you need a wee give toddler to DH.
You aren’t going to starve, dehydrate or get a uti just because you have a sick toddler.

We’ve all been there looking after sick children.

If you have to you can carry the toddler into the bathroom sign you got a wee.

It’s shit but it’s really not that bad habit 2 adults at home and not working looking after 1 toddler.

I was trying to joke @BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz

obviously it didn’t really meet the target audience, or was a crap joke, or both.

does anybody under the age of 50 have a landline?

Thank you. It’s really nice to hear a kind message.

It doesn't matter one jot if you toddler cries. You are being bananas. Get up, get a drink, do whatever you need. When you are done go back and comfort him if he is still crying. And it's not true that said toddler has been screaming for 48 hours, or you would have long since been at a&e. Maybe leave him with Dad, go for a walk and regain your equilibrium.

It's about the only thing our landline gets used for... that and calling parents
I believe there's some virgin media reason we have to have one

I feel your pain OP! I currently have a toddler with ear infections and hand foot and mouth, and a teething 3 month old. I spend my days on the sofa watching paw patrol and my nights going between two children who only want mummy. My husband does try and take over but unless he starts lactating for the baby theres not an awful lot he can do besides the household support and bringing supplies. Sometimes it sucks being the only person who your kids want when they're poorly and I often just feel like I want some personal space! It will pass though and soon you'll be able to use the toilet in peace and maybe even have a wash without hearing your child screaming in the background! This winter has been brutal for illness in our house.