Feel like I'm going into a mental health crisis 18 weeks pregnant

[elm26]

Hi everyone

I feel so awful, every single day for the past 12 weeks I have crippling headache, nausea, exhaustion.

I feel so ill and I've kept putting on a brave face after falling pregnant with a very longed for baby after multiple losses but I've cracked this morning.

I cannot do one more day of headaches, one more night of waking up at 3am for the day.

I'm on citalopram anyway but I feel like I'm heading on a downward slope very fast and I've got out the bath and just broke down to my Husband.

I don't know what to do or where to go. I wish a dr would take me and admit me into hospital until she's here so I can have meds and rest.

I could call the emergency midwife number but I feel bad as it's Boxing Day, I don't know what to do anymore.

Call the emergency number. Don't feel bad- someone is on duty exactly for this reason and you need a break, you sound so poorly xxx

I will call them, thank you.

I haven't been to work since I was 6 weeks pregnant as I've been so ill but on Friday night DH snapped and said he's sick of seeing me so miserable and that I should be happy. He immediately apologised but I think after breaking down this morning he's finally realised just how ill I feel.

You poor thing. I'm 16 weeks and I know how you feel. I had a few months of vomiting every day, exhaustion, not sleeping at night etc... it's so hard. Then there's the constant worry that the baby is ok. It's totally understandable how you're feeling. Take it easy and ask for help.

Hi OP.

I just wanted to say you’re not alone. My situation is different to yours in that I haven’t had the awful sickness (must be horrendous) but I have been in a similar situation mental health wise. I’m 21 weeks.

You deserve all of the help you can access at any time. Put your mental health first and don’t worry about inconveniencing anyone. I know it must feel some days like it will never get better but it will and you will have day when the clouds lift and you feel calm.

I’m also sorry to hear your DP snapped at you. Don’t feel as if you are the problem, you’re poorly. I hope you have other people in your life you can talk to as well xxx

Hi elm.

Im a mental health nurse, dont feel your a burden reaching out for help. What I would say though is mental health professionals take very seriously females who are prenatal or postpartum experiencing any difficulties in relation to their mood. Are you having issues with your mood currently? If so my advice would be to bypass the midwife and contact your local crisis team for mental health. Do you live in Scotland/England? Id be able to signpost you to the team you need to speak to. Hope your feeling better soon mrs xx

You poor thing:( PPs already told you to ring your midwife, but I just wanted to give you virtual hug. I am really hoping things will improve soon. Pregnancy isn’t piece of cake as some may think. My nausea and food aversions were 3-5/10 and it already made my life so miserable. I feel really sorry for you.

Thanks everyone so much.

I ended up passing out yesterday and smashed the side of my face open and hurt my tummy so was hospitalised and feeling much better after lots of rehydration drips and anti sickness meds.

Xx

Oh you poor thing!!! Jesus op you're really going through it.

Well done for speaking to your partner I hope he has stopped the snapping at you and is being all the support you need.

How are you feeling now? 💐

Are you still in hospital?

He's being really supportive and to be fair to him he always is, I think I didn't realise the toll it was taking on him too but he apologised immediately and has been by my side since.

I'm still in hospital but I'm okay, the girls on the maternity ward are all lovely and I think it's helped a little to talk to people going through the same thing. Plus not having to do anything other than lay in bed, read and get pumped full of fluid is doing my some good. X