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To just not really want to post on Social media anymore

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Alliwantforchristmasisjewels · 25/12/2022 23:28

Not sure why?

I always have done in the past, not excessively, but fairly regularly-Fb & Instagram…it was mainly as a sort of photo diary of Dd and things we’ve done as a family with dates etc…but now I just feel so meh about it 🤷🏻‍♀️
I would’ve normally put some Christmas bits up by now, but haven’t and don’t really feel the need/want to. It feels liberating and is making me question why I don’t want to and why I did before.
Have to say I feel a bit down at present so I am a person who probably posts more when happy.
But looking at endless Christmas pics and videos, I just feel a bit ‘Why?’ 🤷🏻‍♀️
I’m becoming so bored by it all, is anyone else?

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JamSandle · 25/12/2022 23:51

I go on and off with it. I usually post when I'm really happy too. Weirdly I'm very happy today but just don't want to post. Maybe valuing the privacy of the moments and feelings more?

I also think you enjoy your own day more when youre present in it and not comparing to other peoples days and equally I hope noone would compare to mine. Probably why I didn't feel the need to post this Christmas.

mummabubs · 25/12/2022 23:53

I don't post on social media at all these days, haven't for about 5 years now. I take lots of photos so will be making proper photo albums to mark our family memories. Much prefer that to posting on Facebook.

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Alliwantforchristmasisjewels · 25/12/2022 23:53

@BlueTick What made you become less interested in it all?

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cherrycheesecakesouffle · 25/12/2022 23:54

My colleague posts every day on Facebook. It makes me cringe. No one is interested in your life. I’ve not posted on there since probably 2012. I’d delete it if I didn’t use Market Place.

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Alliwantforchristmasisjewels · 25/12/2022 23:54

It is quite interesting when you sit back and wonder why you post or others do. I mean mine was never for likes etc but I do wonder why I wanted to show certain things now…it’s weird, never thought about it much until this year

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AmazonPrim · 25/12/2022 23:55

I stopped 3 Christmases ago. I was so fed up with people posting purely to say 'ooh look at me' and for others to like and wow it. I'm so over it

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Alliwantforchristmasisjewels · 25/12/2022 23:56

@cherrycheesecakesouffle But what do they post about for every day?

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pictoosh · 25/12/2022 23:56

It is dull, it is repetitive. Facebook is especially so atm, interspersed with photos of people who all appear to be having a better time than you.
It's fine and dare I say natural, to feel hollow about it. It's dull, repetitive and anxiety-inducing. Christmas on Facebook.

FedUpWithEverything123 · 25/12/2022 23:57

Been feeling like this for about 15 years

JamSandle · 26/12/2022 00:00

Alliwantforchristmasisjewels · 25/12/2022 23:54

It is quite interesting when you sit back and wonder why you post or others do. I mean mine was never for likes etc but I do wonder why I wanted to show certain things now…it’s weird, never thought about it much until this year

Yes I think you're right. I used to use mine as a diary too. But then wondered why I wanted everyone to see that diary. Was I trying to show that I'm happy or doing well or accomplishing things or reaching milestones or connecting with people? It makes me wonder if we worry about looking hally or actually feeling it.

twofojoy · 26/12/2022 00:00

I'm the same, stopped posting and looking on there a few months back now. Mainly because I suddenly realised how it was so normal for me to take a "perfect" pic/video wherever we went for instagram or Facebook. I realised I had a problem when a good friend was telling me about a lovely day out she had with her DC and my first thought was oh I didn't see that posted on social media (she hadn't posted it) Blush I realised how awful it was that I subconsciously assumed she would obviously post it on social media. For what? to show everyone what a great mum she is? Blush

I now realise how many people clearly only do things "for the gram" and how sad it is that they post everyday where they go and what they're up to and how much it takes away from enjoying the moment. I know I have a happy life and am genuinely content with it so why did I feel the need to prove it to social media? It is liberating not posting or consuming it all the time. I actually get a bit embarrassed looking back at old posts or thinking of old stories I'd post and think what a prick I was Grin

JamSandle · 26/12/2022 00:00

*happy

ShillyShallySherbet · 26/12/2022 00:02

I really don’t get when people say they use Facebook/instagram as a diary. It’s showing off pure and simple. What’s wrong with just looking back through your camera roll or Google drive or whatever to see what you were up to or, you know, keeping an actual diary? OP you’ve just come to your senses that’s all, nothing wrong with not posting your life on the internet.

Hawkins001 · 26/12/2022 00:02

Mine it's a mox,.some days and it's quiet then other days I'm posting different things, usually more educational items or intelligence services related mainly, sometimes military too.

BelenaConhamHarter · 26/12/2022 00:03

Don't bother. No one cares. I came off social media (except here) early covid and other than very occasionally missing a bit of gossip it wasn't an issue.

Important stuff will find its way to you.

Hawkins001 · 26/12/2022 00:04

Then I do photography too, more like history type style, primarily

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 26/12/2022 00:05

I'm the same. Looking back at memories I used to post some really mundane stuff and I just can't be arsed anymore. I've posted a picture of us out for lunch today and that's it. Not interested in seeing what people got for Xmas or what they're drinking.

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Alliwantforchristmasisjewels · 26/12/2022 00:06

@twofojoy Yes I was the same for a while and now just feel a bit blah about it all and ‘What’s the point’ strange to have such a turnaround though

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Alliwantforchristmasisjewels · 26/12/2022 00:07

I also feel embarrassed when I look back 🙈perhaps we were all just so enthusiastic about it and maybe that has gone a bit now

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MargaretMead · 26/12/2022 00:09

I stopped posting when my child decided they didn’t want to be on social media at all, and I found that I didn’t miss it.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 26/12/2022 00:11

We went to a local place to see Santa the other day. One of DD's friends went the week before and the mum posted it. I said we were going. Didn't make a post not sure why but she did text and ask if dd had enjoyed it

girlswillbegirls · 26/12/2022 00:13

It's exactly as @twofojoy says.
I don't do social media because It's just fake, boring and a total waste of time. I use WhatsApp, ring and meet up friends instead. They know they won't find me in social media.
We don't have a lot of spare time when we have kids. Why would we waste our time to posting things for the show? And looking at equally fake posts? Who benefits from this? Am I remotely interested in people's fake perfect lives? Not in the slightest.
I had a FB account many many years ago and I never posted much as it started to horrify me. I deleted the account (only social media account I ever signed for) and felt very liberated.
I would recommend a documentary in Netflix called The Social Dilemma to anyone.

Delete your Instagram, and Facebook account OP. You won't look back.

ImustLearn2Cook · 26/12/2022 00:13

I feel the same way as a lot of pp. I lost interest a long time ago. It also started to feel like an obligation which made it less enjoyable.

It is freeing to just live in the moment and enjoy life without having to document it and post it on social media.

But some people really enjoy documenting their lives even before social media such as journaling or writing an autobiography. Nothing wrong with that either.

sweetdreamtennasee · 26/12/2022 00:15

same, feel like I’ve outgrown it, think they selfie has had its moment to be honest, different in a group situ but I used to be a bit braggy on social media and thinking back I just cringe.

girlswillbegirls · 26/12/2022 00:17

Actually I never considered forums like Munsnet social media. I called social media any platform where you post your own life, with photos etc for the rest of the world to see.
I think a forum is very different, love the exchange of ideas and anonymity of it.