Have a Good Christmas.

luxxlisbon · 25/12/2022 21:16

If I really liked someone I probably would want to see them over thr Christmas period, so being told to have a good Christmas or me saying it back, is a bit of a rolls eyes now a days...

I don’t really get why this makes you roll your eyes. There are plenty of people I like but don’t get to see over the Christmas period for various reasons so I would wish them a good Christmas.

Sparklesocks · 25/12/2022 21:16

I think you’re reading too much into it. It’s just something people say often as part of small talk or wishing you well.

Rockingcloggs · 25/12/2022 21:16

I don't understand what is annoying about exchanging simple pleasantries with someone?! I say this as someone who feels irrational annoyance over very minor things but even I can't get annoyed about 'have a good Christmas'!!

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Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:20

I don't want to be annoyed, it's just a standard polite phrase.
But what if lots of people Don't actually have a good Xmas?
I didn't care before about stuff like that, but as you get older, you lose the excitement and like gets harder maybe ?
Plus it can be a very fake statement depending who says it?

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pizzaHeart · 25/12/2022 21:21

You can have accidents, illnesses, quarrels over Xmas period. You can plan it for months and then your heating might be broken or your car. Your children might be particularly difficult and exhausting ( any ages tbh). There are lots of things which can go wrong so wishing to have a good Christmas is a nice and thoughtful wish imo.

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Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:21

A few people said it to me that probably have said it to loads of other people. So I didn't think it was personal or genuine.

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Hugasauras · 25/12/2022 21:23

I really liked someone I probably would want to see them over thr Christmas period

This is a bit weird. I like lots of people that I won't see over Christmas because they are away visiting family or just busy with other plans.

Ireallywantsomechips · 25/12/2022 21:23

Is it not the same as “have a good day” or if you’re going away “have a good time”?

pizzaHeart · 25/12/2022 21:24

Any statement can be fake depending who says it. What about “good night” or “happy birthday “?
And it changes with age how you celebrate Christmas but it doesn’t mean you can’t have good time.

CatchYouOnTheFlippetyFlop · 25/12/2022 21:25

Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:21

A few people said it to me that probably have said it to loads of other people. So I didn't think it was personal or genuine.

So if someone repeats a polite phrase more than 5 times, it makes them disingenuous??

That's batshit sorry OP, but YABVVU.

Rockingcloggs · 25/12/2022 21:29

Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:21

A few people said it to me that probably have said it to loads of other people. So I didn't think it was personal or genuine.

How many times is someone allowed to wish someone a good Christmas before it becomes meaningless?! I work with approx 60 people. I do hope they all have had a good Christmas!

tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 21:30

Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:21

A few people said it to me that probably have said it to loads of other people. So I didn't think it was personal or genuine.

You could say the same about any social nicety.

The point is that they care enough to wish you well. They don't have to care about your specific plans for that to be a valid sentiment.

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Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:32

tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 21:30

You could say the same about any social nicety.

The point is that they care enough to wish you well. They don't have to care about your specific plans for that to be a valid sentiment.

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So they like me a little bit, but don't really care?

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Sparklesocks · 25/12/2022 21:35

Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:20

I don't want to be annoyed, it's just a standard polite phrase.
But what if lots of people Don't actually have a good Xmas?
I didn't care before about stuff like that, but as you get older, you lose the excitement and like gets harder maybe ?
Plus it can be a very fake statement depending who says it?

I think you’re reaching you’re very hard to be annoyed. Has someone you specifically don’t like said it to you so you’ve declared war on the phrase? It’s just a social pleasantry. You’re not going to have deep and meaningful talks with every single person in your life. You might say it to colleagues when you clock off work for Xmas as you go your separate ways. I certainly wouldn’t want to see them during the festive period but doesn’t mean I wish them ill either.

But then if you try hard enough you can take almost anything as an insult - but it sounds like an incredibly tiresome existence!

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Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:35

Rockingcloggs · 25/12/2022 21:29

How many times is someone allowed to wish someone a good Christmas before it becomes meaningless?! I work with approx 60 people. I do hope they all have had a good Christmas!

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Some of them you must care more about and say it with more meaning, for example you would like a catch up or have a conversation in the new year with regard to how your Xmas break was.

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tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 21:36

How the hell should I know the specific thought process of every person who has ever wished you a nice Christmas?!

You said you thought it was fake, I'm simply saying I disagree.

BaublesandBangles · 25/12/2022 21:37

Is there nothing Christmas related that MN won't whinge and moan about.

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Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:38

It just sometimes feels like a tedious statement..polite yes. But contrived maybe.

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tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 21:39

Do you genuinely not believe it's possible to sincerely wish another person well unless you have a close relationship with them?

Rockingcloggs · 25/12/2022 21:39

@Aquarius1234 But I will catch up with them all because I am the office manager and will see them all at some point! I mean it equally!

tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 21:42

Looking at it another way, choosing not to bother wishing someone well (for Christmas, their holiday, whatever) is a statement that you don't give a toss about them.

So making the effort to say the pleasantry has meaning, whether you're close enough to see them over Christmas or not.

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Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:45

tickticksnooze · 25/12/2022 21:42

Looking at it another way, choosing not to bother wishing someone well (for Christmas, their holiday, whatever) is a statement that you don't give a toss about them.

So making the effort to say the pleasantry has meaning, whether you're close enough to see them over Christmas or not.

That's true, it's a fine line.

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Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:47

Sparklesocks · 25/12/2022 21:16

I think you’re reading too much into it. It’s just something people say often as part of small talk or wishing you well.

Yes thats the point small talk. Could be saying it to anyone at all, someone they have met for 3 mins.

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Aquarius1234 · 25/12/2022 21:50

pizzaHeart · 25/12/2022 21:24

Any statement can be fake depending who says it. What about “good night” or “happy birthday “?
And it changes with age how you celebrate Christmas but it doesn’t mean you can’t have good time.

Don't get me started on Happy Birthday or Good Night 😄

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UsingChangeofName · 25/12/2022 23:01

I didn't care before about stuff like that, but as you get older, you lose the excitement and like gets harder maybe ?

Er, I'm considered "older" on MN, but I don't find it difficult to be nice to people. If anything, I'm less stressed now the dc are grown up and dh and I are only responsible for our own diaries, so potentially I would say I am a bit nicer than I was when I was younger when I was probably more tired, and more stressed.

Plus it can be a very fake statement depending who says it?

Why would it be fake ?
I don't need to be super close to someone to hope they have a lovely Christmas (or you could substitute holiday / weekend / evening / day out).
I know it is a bit unrealistic, but I actually hope everyone has a lovely Christmas - yes, including strangers on the internet. Why would I only want people I am close to to be the only ones to have a nice Christmas ???