hurting again tonight after a curt response to a merry Christmas message I sent my friend.
I’ll try keeping this short! We’ve been friends for 9 years, through our kids firstly then our own friendship grew. Kids the same age and very close. We became very close, I considered her my best friend. We shared our relationship struggles and worries and supported each other emotionally and lractislly with childcare when working etc. all good.
and then, something changed. I still don’t know what. She became quite off with me, made some comments about me to other mums, nothing awful but I felt hurt and confused as to me it came out of the blue. I kept asking what was wrong, had I done something, and after a couple of weeks of awkwardness she admitted she’d felt annoyed with me over an issue (minor) with our kids and had been unreasonable and she was sorry. I said no problem and just glad we are ok but please let me know in future if something I’ve done upsets you so we can talk it out not leave it being awkward. Etc etc. all felt ok for a while. And then she again started being just “off” with me. Colder at school gate, not messaging me like she used to, making (I think) excuses not to meet up or have the kids meet up. then again, it seemed to resolve but we didn’t feel “close” anymore. And then again she went all cold. And tonight I sent my usual Xmas message and i got back a cold reply that never would have happened in years past at Xmas. I am annoyed with myself that it still hurts me but it does. I don’t make good friends easily and she felt like my best friend and it just seems something has changed this year that doesn’t seem to be able to come back from but I still don’t get why or how. Any time I’ve asked she says she’s fine. I’m fed up feeling hurt by it and annoyed that I’m in my 40’s and feel like a teenager who has lost their best mate at high school. Do I just walk away now from it and let it go?