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To stick to 9mo new sleep schedule on Christmas Eve

26 replies

PetitPetitPois · 24/12/2022 20:59

Feel like a Scrooge!

DP is livid because I’ve ruined our first Christmas Eve. DS has never been a good napper and has such a late bedtime, which I’ve been trying to sort for the last 3 days. He usually ends up grumpy most of the evening anyway before an 2 hour long battle to put him to bed ending at about 11pm. I’m back to work properly from Jan and that’s way too late for me to function the next day.

Anyway, put DS to bed at 7pm as I really want to sort his sleep out over the Christmas break and he’s been so good today, went to bed at 7:30pm last night and had 3 naps today! I’m so reluctant to break it as I feel like I’m finally getting somewhere but feel very selfish and Scrooge like and everyone and their dog seem to hate me at the moment.

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Summerishere123 · 24/12/2022 21:02

I don't understand why it is a problem? What is him sleeping preventing?

luxxlisbon · 24/12/2022 21:02

I don’t really understand, what exactly is he livid about?

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PetitPetitPois · 24/12/2022 21:04

I guess he just wanted to hang out on Christmas Eve with both us 😔

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susiesuelou · 24/12/2022 21:04

Another one who doesn't understand what the problem is ...

BabyMomma2021 · 24/12/2022 21:04

I'm sorry you've been made to feel bad for this but babies need routine and they have no idea what day tomorrow is. Keeping them up is just for the adults enjoyment imo. My baby went to bed at normal time, it's her first Christmas too. Now tomorrow she will be well rested and in good spirits as she'll have had a good nights sleep.

(Ps. I'm no sleep martyr and do break routine as needed)

Showmethefood · 24/12/2022 21:05

Him staying up wouldn’t add any magic would it? He’s a baby and won’t understand the magic. Your DP is being unreasonable.

Flamingogirl08 · 24/12/2022 21:05

I mean I got my mine down early so we could hit the wine together. Surelybits better the baby is in bed?

susiesuelou · 24/12/2022 21:06

My 20 month old went to bed at her normal bedtime of 7pm. I don't understand why you'd keep them up past that time, it makes no odds to them as they don't understand. In a few you'll probably struggle to keep them in bed on Christmas Eve due to the excitement - make the most of it!

susiesuelou · 24/12/2022 21:06

*few years, that should have been!

ShirleyPhallus · 24/12/2022 21:06

i mean, he’s 9 months old, what is your partner expecting?

on the other hand, while routine is important it’s only been 2 days he’s been in this “routine” so not really a big deal either way

ShirleyPhallus · 24/12/2022 21:08

BabyMomma2021 · 24/12/2022 21:04

I'm sorry you've been made to feel bad for this but babies need routine and they have no idea what day tomorrow is. Keeping them up is just for the adults enjoyment imo. My baby went to bed at normal time, it's her first Christmas too. Now tomorrow she will be well rested and in good spirits as she'll have had a good nights sleep.

(Ps. I'm no sleep martyr and do break routine as needed)

😆@ babies need routine. It’s been 3 days! Before that the baby’s routine was to go to bed late!

bridgetreilly · 24/12/2022 21:08

I would have thought Christmas Eve with a sleeping baby is a lot more fun, tbh. But as a pp says, 2 days is hardly a routine, starting again tomorrow or Monday would be okay.

TrudyProud · 24/12/2022 21:13

What's the issue? My 8month DD went to bed at her normal time (7pm). Now DH and I are having a few drinks and sharing excitement for DD 1st Christmas tomorrow morning.

Mindymomo · 24/12/2022 21:13

You are right to continue that routine. My first DC never went to bed early but he got into a better sleep routine by the time I had my second son, so we were both in bed by 9 pm. My second son would fall asleep at 8 pm every night and if I tried keeping him up if we had guests over, he would just fall asleep.

Jellyjam36 · 24/12/2022 21:15

Mine was in bed like normal this year, and last year which was his first Christmas.... when they're 4+ you'll have years of late stay ups on Christmas Eve and that's when they'll actually know what's going on!

luxxlisbon · 24/12/2022 21:17

It’s not really a routine after a small handful of days so I wouldn’t get hung up on him going to bed and X time because ‘routine’.

That said when a baby is tired it goes to bed, that’s more important than the adult wanting to hang out with them.

Soubriquet · 24/12/2022 21:17

It’s Christmas Eve and my two still went to bed at their normal 8pm bedtime.

They will very likely be in bed tomorrow at the same time.

PutOnAHappyFace · 24/12/2022 21:19

My 18 month old went to bed normal time. You have years of christmas eve fun to come, they don't know any difference at this age.

Hope your Christmas gets better OP.

BabyMomma2021 · 24/12/2022 21:20

@ShirleyPhallus yeah but she is back to work in Jan and has limited time to get her baby sleeping earlier so why go back to square one?

EternalSunshine19 · 24/12/2022 21:24

Your DP is being unreasonable. I don't know why he thinks Christmas Eve will be ruined because your baby is asleep. Is he going to say New Years Eve is ruined too because your baby went to sleep before midnight?

Hugasauras · 24/12/2022 21:27

What would you do on Xmas Eve with a 9mo old? Confused I'd be glad they were asleep so we could have a Christmassy evening together!

spidereggs · 24/12/2022 21:32

Op if your partner is livid at a sleeping baby, you need to step back and think about next year.

My DH is a farmer, and never here. If I posted about the extreme nature of that I would be told to leave.

But he's kind, gentle, supportive and clueless but never livid about sleep

MilkToastHoney · 24/12/2022 21:35

PetitPetitPois · 24/12/2022 21:04

I guess he just wanted to hang out on Christmas Eve with both us 😔

You can’t really ‘hang out’ with a 9MO in the evening though!! They are tired and cranky and get overtired.

Surely put DS to bed then you watch a film/have a drink or whatever together? I love Christmas Eve with DH when kids go to bed.

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PetitPetitPois · 24/12/2022 21:43

@EternalSunshine19 😂 This made me chuckle.

Thank you for the lovely comments feeling a bit better about my decisions

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Calphurnia88 · 26/12/2022 08:32

@PetitPetitPois I have a 9mo and can relate to wanting to stick to routine.

We're staying with family over the holidays, and I have been very clear with DP that we're keeping to the normal nap/bedtime schedule. So far it's worked pretty well and no one has complained (not to my face anyway 🤣).