OH's car broke down this morning so he was moody and cranky and then went off . Fair enough, better than here and stressing me out too. Came home after a pint(or four) and promptly fell asleep at 6 pm. Quite typical for him to be honest on Christmas eve. Last one it was 7 pm. The one before that I think he lasted until 8.
Didn't bother me too much , as me and DD have our Christmas routine and things to do so just got on with it.
The issue is he woke up about an hour later and decided to "help". His help was to make the plate for Santa, without telling me or at least DD. So I go in the kitchen and he got it all ready ,didn't use the special plate and cup as he didn't even knew they existed(since he's normally asleep by the time we do it) and milk poured,mince pie and carrot on the plate etc. To be fair DD is 11 so doesn't really believe anymore and she hasn't for a while but it's still her thing. She does it all, picks the best mince pie etc. and then we put it on the table. For some reason it really annoyed me he did it all by himself without even letting her know so she had some chance to participate.
YABU - it doesn't matter who does the plate ,when or how.
YANBU - if you have children that want to be involved you don't do it yourself as an adult.