wedding cancelled-mental health reasons

[Nimbostratus100]

Not too many details so not identifying

My friend was due to marry this week, but her fiance cancelled due to her specific mental health disorder and the way it was presenting the night before.

It is illegal to continue with a wedding if some of the couple is not in sound mind

we were "on notice" until today, in case it went ahead, but now it isn't happening for a while.

I just find this upsetting and confusing, and difficult to plan around.

So, do we go ahead with celebration tonight or not?

I have been asked my opinion, but honestly dont know what to say. Its a low key event, but deposits have been paid.

YABU - go ahead and celebrate the marriage that will happen one day soon
YANBU- wait until marriage happens to celebrate

My friend's mental health problems are not related in any way to depression or low mood, if that makes a difference

I am not great health wise, but am prepared to make an effort and go and join in for an hour or two, if it goes ahead

What? OP said that likely because she knows the bride closely enough to know that info. Jesus christ what a tool

Sounds like the bride is in a manic episode. My younger daughter has bipolar and the manic episodes are so much worse to handle than the depression side.

But I am confused by OP. How can the bride’s mental illness not be related to depression. Its been my experience that the mood pendulum swings from manic to depressive. It doesn’t stop at normal . And it doesn’t cycle so quickly. I’ve found cycles last several weeks to months with long periods of regulated mood in between.

What are all the other guests doing? Have you organised the wedding, I'd just follow what others are doing.

The assumptions regarding this woman’s diagnosis are exactly why there’s still so much stigma surrounding mental ill health. Even the people with personal experience are assuming that they know details that op hasn’t disclosed.

Have a lovely time @Nimbostratus100 . Hopefully they will get their big day soon.

That’s also OP’s point by saying her friend’s illness isn’t depression related. So what’s wrong with what OP said?

Because he probably recognises the symptoms and a Dr saw them?

There are some ignorant posts on this thread, bloody hell.
Do you mean the wedding reception by the celebration?
What has been said by the groom? IE, we have had to call it off but since we've already paid, please go ahead and enjoy yourself = YANBU.
Honestly, without him saying something similar to the above I wouldn't attend.

Rapid Cycling exists in bipolar (if that is what the bride has been diagnosed with, it's all speculation at this point).

Anyone read Thomas Szasz?

bipolar?

I wasn’t asking about the MH diagnosis, I was asking how the fiancée came to determine that the wedding couldn’t go ahead.

The OP then explained it.

Thank you. We've had a nice few hours together. I've come home to bed, others are still out enjoying themselves. I just hope the wedding itself goes ahead as soon as possible too now

Maybe an acute episode included an eye-opener incident
that changes everything , not just now but for the future.

I think for their sakes now is not the time for a celebration. A celebration now means "of course everybody expects you're still getting married". Perhaps at least one of them has serious doubts. They both need some calm and space to work it out with no pressure. NOT, high stimulation partying and excitement.

@ whadda

*My point is that it’s quite bizarre that a man would turn to a woman and say “I’ve deemed you mentally incapable of entering into a legal contract and so our wedding in a few days’ time is cancelled”

 There's no suggestion the groom did that.

In order to get married, both parties must have mental and legal capacity. The marriage official has to check that they do, and will refuse to act if there's a very florid MH problem. Or if a doctor has invoked some section of the mental health act.

No need to be so bitchy in your response