Is this normal or overstepping boundaries? It's a Mil one

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My DH has a job in a specialist area that requires a PhD. It's an okay salary for north of England but not high (it's under 50k). We have a mortgage on a small 3 bedroom house and own our own car. I'm a SAHM to 2 children and will return to work in a few years. We are fine for money and don't need the extra salary. We have never asked inlaws for money.
Mil keeps sending DH job advertisements for other jobs in fields that don't require DH's PhD and don't even earn much more. DH has not asked her to do this. She even got her husband (DHs step father) to tell him he should be earning more to support his family. Is this normal or overstepping boundaries? This isn't the only issue with her doing stuff like this either.

If he’s asked her to stop and she’s not then she’s massively overstepping.

Has he told her to stop doing it? Weird that she's doing this.

Dh never stands up to his mother. I have had to in the past like when she said we caused our son's autism

She's overstepping. Perhaps you should send her some leaflets about finding new adoptive parents for older children.

Nosy. Unless you’ve asked them for money at any point (guessing you haven’t)

Each time she does it send her a care home leaflet back.

Cuppasoupmonster we have never asked them for money and never even complained about needing more money. Though Mil can't stop talking about money and how much things cost.

She's overstepping - so was my sil when she told me I should go back to work so dh wouldn't have to work as many hours, some people don't know how to mind their own business.

DH needs to be assertive with her “I feel that I need to tell you that I have no plans to change jobs. I think it’s best if it isn’t discussed any more”

If not, you say it the sooner the better

Tell you DH to stop telling you when she does this.

He’s not willing to stand up to her, and all he’s doing by whining to you about it is winding you up. Tell him to stop.

Overstepping the mark, but if the conversations are just between her and your DH, I'd just leave them to it. I'd have to say something if she was having those conversations with you though.

Did your DH grow up in a bigger house? Have a different childhood? Is she comparing your lifestyle to how DH was brought up and think that he needs to be providing the same childhood for his own family?

Another one who didn't read the OP 🤦‍♀️

Is it just that she does really understand what DH does?

my DH is a programmer, his mum is convinced he’d be better off getting a local job that involves going to peoples homes and helping them set up and fix computers For some research that’s the only career with computers she can conceive of.

She needs to be told in no uncertain terms to wind her neck in. Every single time.

In the meantime, ignore her. She may provide what she deems useful information but that doesn't mean it is actually useful at all. Nor does it mean that you or DH need to pay it any attention at all, much less act on it.

If your husband isnt bothered enough by it to speak to her (that might not stop her doing it) then why are you bothered

Just roll your eyes and bin the information (or your husband does that anyway hopefully)