15 / will any of you be allowing your 15 year old some Drinks on Xmas day eg sup of desert wine?

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As above inspired by other thread...maybe hot milk with a Tony shot of bailey?

Or is it a no no.

I was allowed to drink at home and was so far from sensible as a teen. I built up quite a tolerance by 14 and could neck whiskey no bother! I definitely wouldn't give an 8 year old booze..but I will allow my teens some wine with dinner if they want it ( they don't generally). We must not act as though heavy drinking is inevitable. Some people don't drink at all and that's fine. In fact it's better- alcohol is very addictive and can ruin lives it's not harmless.

I didn't last year when he was 15 but he asked me if he can I'll have some this year as he's 16. He asked for cherry sourz (whatever they are) or baileys and I agreed a bottle of baileys so we bought that and he can have a few glasses over the next few days

I know he's drunk alcohol when out with mates and I don't approve which he also knows. However I've not made a big thing about it because it was over the summer holidays and well... but it's relatively normal isn't it? I'd rather know so he keeps me informed rather than blow my top and then he does it all totally behind my back

Yes of course. DS had half a flute of bucks fizz with us over dinner yesterday and will have a little bit of champagne topped up with orange juice at breakfast tomorrow. Nothing wrong with small amounts in a safe environment at that age. He's got Beck's Blue and glitter J2Os too. I was allowed a couple of Barcardi Breezers or Smirnoff Ice at that age at family parties.

He asked for cherry sourz (whatever they are) or baileys and I agreed a bottle of baileys so we bought that and he can have a few glasses over the next few days

Sourz have a lower alcohol % than Baileys plus its then diluted with Lemonade.

Baileys with milk sounds weird though. I usually use it as a milk replacement in coffee or hot chocolate though so maybe that's why I think it sounds odd

“I don't understand this need to give teenagers alcohol, it tastes disgusting.”

In your opinion. 🙄

YANBU op. If you’re responsible, drinking alcohol is fun and a great enhancement in life. It is for me anyway! Our kids are young adults now and it’s one of my favourite things now as a parent to have a grown-up drink out or a cocktail together. Great times.

Bucks fizz in the morning. One glass of wine with the meal if they want. I would not be buying alcopops ever.

I've honestly tried to like the stuff, though a good whisky did used to be my tipple. I've tried numerous wines and they just give me earache. White spirits make me feel low. I'm a little envious of people who can enjoy the stuff.

Same, me and my brother were also allowed small amounts at 7-8+ by my teens alcohol had no mystery to it. And by 16/17 I was just drinking the "adult drinks"

Both me and my brother have a healthy attitude to alcohol. I can go months without a drink, I'm not a person who needs a glass of wine on a Friday after work or anything, and I have never viewed it as a coping mechanism tool.

I'll drink at parties and special occasions, and yes I have gotten tipsy, but I've never drunk to black out oblivion. Whilst all my friends were getting "smashed" aged 18-20 on their now availability to purchase the mystery items, I didn't. It wasn't a mystery I already knew what I did and don't like to drink, and the amount I liked to drink. 🤷🏻‍♀️

well 18 and 20 year old have both rocked up at 3am slightly worse for wear the last two mornings - so they buy their own now !

My 14 year old gets a weakish snowball and has tasted her sisters Amaretto or Malibu - DD1 also makes mean B52's (For me not her baby sister!)

They have all had very weak snowballs on Christmas eve since they were about 13

I once got hammered at a party when one of the dads came to a party with crates of Cherry B and Babycham - I was about 12! (parents unaware we were making punch!) I managed to be a sensible teen

DD’s been having a small glass of Prosecco at special occasions since she was pretty small. She’s 12 now and will certainly have a small
glass at midnight on NYE.

DS will have a beer. DD would be offered but she hates it. Oh well more for me!

Yes i would. Better at home where they’re safe

@UWhatNow

If you’re responsible, drinking alcohol is fun and a great enhancement in life.

I think it's a bit bad to suggest people with alcohol problems don't not gain then through not being responsible.

Urgh, what a mess of a post.

I meant it's bad to suggest it's only irresponsible people who end up with alcohol problems.

French grandmother gave us snowballs when I was about 10.

i could have sips of wine at that age, but I didn’t like it. Moved onto dry martini and lemonade/Bacardi and coke at about 14.

I hardly drink at all now. Christmas Eve and Christmas Day - and could easily go rest of year without a drink.

i still love a snowball though.

I never offer it to DC, but if they wanted a small glass of champagne, or something, I would allow it. I don't see any value in encouraging them to drink, but equally I don't want to make it some exciting forbidden thing.

I'll offer my 14yo ds a small glass of fizz tomorrow morning and he'll say no.

Then I'll offer him a thimbleful of Amaretto on Christmas evening and he might say yes. Or he might not.

Good lord, our were allowed a sip of our wine at whatever age they asked, of course they went 'ugh!' and preferred the coca cola or Shloer or J2O on offer - and never asked again! By the time they get to teens they're allowed a small cider or beer or wine with the meal - but actually even into their 20s still prefer to choose the J2O or coca cola because I NEVER EVER buy it other than at Christmas.

I wouldn't be giving them desert wine

Get a breezer In

At home with family yes. But she won’t want any (nearly 15)

I've bought my 14 year old a bottle of cider to have with Christmas lunch, I don't expect he'll like it though

Is it not better to give them something like lager or ale or a dry white wine which probably tastes a bit unpleasant for a first time drinker.
That way the mystique is taken away but they may not be inclined to consume glasses of it.

My eldest is 9 but at at 15, yeah I'd let him have a glass of wine or shandy with dinner and a small Baileys in the evening.

For over thirteens, it’s better that they have one drink with family to learn to drink socially in moderation. Going on sprees with unsupervised peers is far more dangerous. I was allowed to drink on special occasions as a teen, and still drink rarely in my fifties.