To think our friendship is over?

[Scarebe]

my best friend and I have been friends for over 12 years. We’ve always been pretty close, h have kids and she doesn’t but we still made time to see each other etc.

For the past year she’s gotten closer to this group of friends, who are nice and I get along with. She’s out almost every weekend with them, doing fun new things, when I ask if she wants to do things she never wants to. I’ve let her know when I have a child free weekend, it’s only if I suggest to do something she will.

I actually told her how I felt about this, because I invited her to my house one time for her favourite dinner. She didn’t turn up so I messaged her and she was like I’m so sorry I forgot I’m at a concert. Anyway she apologised for making me feel that way, and said I could make effort too.
Again I’ve seen cool things , told her we could do it together. Said she should come round but left it open ended. I think the final straw was she arranged a meal tomorrow with a huge group of girls her friends included, I have had a huge allergic reaction on my face so I messaged saying I don’t think I can come tomorrow, don’t want to put make up on and I’m in pain.She just said ah right get better soon.

I’ll admit I snapped and said it’s the first thing you have invited me to all year I’m sure you will be okay without me there. I know it’s passive aggressive but I just feel so disappointed

Might she think that you're lying? Making an excuse to avoid coming?

She was probably annoyed that you made her feel shit for not including her, then you cancel when she does.

I'd just let this one slide op, you're in different places in your life, no good will come of this friendship now.

She might be "being funny" because you've been very insistent she should spend time with you but then you've cancelled on her... I too don't really think you can be cross with her response.

I feel for you O it sounds like you are drifting apart and whilst you are working hard to maintain it she seems halfhearted about it

I’d say as a fellow childless woman, sometimes with friends with kids you do feel relegated to second place and you do tend to hang out with friends who are also childless or make time to see you without kids.

Having said that two of my ex best friends who I saw a lot when we were younger, they both made a real effort to see me, invited me round or me invited them round or we went out etc.

It sounds like your friendship is sliding and getting mixed messages on both sides. I’d let it slide and maybe try to rekindle in the new year.

A nice card from you to her as a friend would be appreciated if it were me.