To have gotten MIL a gift from our child?

[Onegift]

I'm quite close to my MIL and not long ago she helped out quite a bit with mine and DHs child when they were ill but we desperately needed to go to work still.

As a thank you I got a little present made from a local seller and it was engraved to Grandma lots of love X (our child's name) and have given it to her alongside her main Christmas gift from us all. Item was bought solely from my own money (me and DH have separate disposable to buy what we like with after bills ect).

My husband has older DC too (large age gap, our DC is in nursery, DSC in secondary).

AIBU to have gotten a separate gift for MIL from just our child?

UABU for using ‘gotten’

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How is this even an AIBU

More a humble brag about how caring and thoughtful you want to seem.

What makes you think you are unreasonable, OP?

Unless the engraving says ‘Grandma, you cow’, crack on.

Sorry DH thinks I was unreasonable for not putting all DC's names on it as she's all of their grandma.

Wow bitchy here tonight! 😅

I’ve had a drink so don’t really get it 👀

He’s being ridiculous.

No of course YANBU. If he wants to give his mum gifts from his older kids he can bloody sort it. Tbh if they’re remotely bothered they can do their own if they’re at secondary.

He’s being ridiculous.

It's a thank you for a particular reason, its not a slight to his other children, I would say that to dh. Dh can do something separately if he feels it's needed.

He's being over sensitive. I often buy my mum gifts from one of the kids - they are both biologically mine and I don't think twice if it's something that would be personal or apt from one but not the other

Yanbu, if his kids are in secondary, why aren’t they shopping for grandma themselves anyway ?

Agree. Gotten! there is no such word. Are you American.

We've always got gifts "from us " , in terms of Christmas, Birthday. They would come from the family as a whole.

If I wanted to get a present to say "Thank you for looking after me" purportedly from your dd, I would have got it at the time, and not really made it into a Christmas present. Just given it as a "Thank you" present.

I must stop reading this total shit!

I don’t see this as a problem. Especially if it’s to say thank you for a specific thing. Although I may have just got something generic to avoid the personalisation

I also get Christmas presents from the kids to the grandparents

Sorry posted too soon,

I think it’s a nice thing to do especially if the grandparents help out as they do

Then you’d better tell the authors of the King James Bible they’re incorrect @Stangerthings @Pottedpalm

or at least fact check your assertions before derailing someone’s thread with incorrect pedantry

Kindly bugger off then

If it's such shit why the hell are you commenting. Jeez the pointless bitchiness is ridiculous here today,

OP I think it's fine. DH can get a gift from his older kids if he wants.

@onegift What have you started 😅

I'm Irish and gotten is a word 🤷

YANBU op

No of course YANBU. If he wants to give his mum gifts from his older kids he can bloody sort it. Tbh if they’re remotely bothered they can do their own if they’re at secondary.

This! Why does he think it part of your wife-work to buy his mother a gift on behalf of his older kids?

He wouldn't have expected me to buy one from the kids normally. It's just because I got a 'grandma' gift but only put our child's name on it.

YABU for using ‘U’ instead of ‘Y’

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OP did your DH expect you to get gifts from all the other grand children as well? 😂 You’re entitled to buy something for your MIL from your child, I don’t see the harm in that at all! Of course it’s DHs responsibility to get something from the other child, if it’s so important to him 😘