Hi all
Bit of a story with this one -
Met a friend for a coffee today, and she explained that last week her and DH had a big blow up about something very small - her DH is the sweetest man ever, and they are not a couple to fight - context was that DH had decided to bring a friend home from work as the friend needed somebody to talk to as he was going through emotional trauma. My is currently only working PT and was at home that day anyway.
Friend openly said to me that she was quite rude to DH's friend as she wasn't in the mood for company, her DH told her that his friend was there as he had been given bad news and wanted company, was only staying a couple of hours before going home, and if she didn't want company, she could always go upstairs to the bedroom to watch tv - something which I know she does a lot anyway. Friend was not having any of it, and made a huge scene which caused DH to snap at her and call her selfish. Friend then left and they argued about it, and settled it.
Friend however wasn't done and asked her DH to leave for the night as she was pissed off with him. At this point, I said to my friend she was being a bit over dramatic and kicking him out for a night in the doghouse would be way OTT. My friend then said "well you wouldn't know because you've been single for years so you don't know anything about relationships"
I was honestly so taken back, she has always been that friend who does say things without engaging the brain first. We changed topic of conversation and then eventually she carried on about the other week, she was ranting to me about how dare her DH stay in the house when she asked him to leave, apparently, DH told her that it was just as much his house as hers, and he wasn't going anywhere and slept in the spare room. This apparently enraged her more as he said she wasn't going to command him out his own house.
I then said "well I do sort of agree with that statement, you can't force your partner to leave just because you've had a barney, if one of my partners told me to leave in my own house, i'd tell them to fuck off''
To which she then said "which is why I dont think marriage will work for you, because it's about keeping your partner happy and if my partner was upset with me and asked me to leave I would"
I replied that I didn't care about that, because I am of the opinion that if you own your home (Either on your own or with a partner) nobody in the world has the right to tell you what to do in it - my friend then snootily replied
"well maybe your parents didn't raise you in the same way as me"
LIKE WTF is that comment about?! I do have that opinion and it wont change, I then just wound up our coffee date and Ive been stewing since.
AIBU to be offended by her comments about being single, never being married and her comment on my upbringing?
So sorry for the essay!