So DH had his kids 50/50 until recent when teenage DD started only coming EOW but we still had have DS 50/50. This weekend DSD had Scarlett fever so didn’t come as she felt ill so wanted to stay with her mum- not an issue.
Sunday morning 15 year old dog becomes very ill very fast and literally gasping for breath so got my DM to run round to watch my 2 DS and DSS and we rushed her straight to the vet as clearly suffering. Vet diagnosed heart failure and fluid on lung so unfortunately put her to sleep there and then. We get home and DH drives to ex’s house to tell DD in person. Later Ex wife starts texting constantly how selfish we are for not allowing DD to say goodbye- DH explains was emergency and dog was suffering and it wasn’t intentional but she won’t drop it so he ignores her messages.
Ex then messaged me how I probably did it this weekend to spite DSD and didn’t let her say goodbye on purpose. I have lost my temper saying it’s not about DSD the dog was drowning in fluid on the lungs so she come first and I wanted her to be seen but ex carries on so have told her to get lost and stop being such a self absorbed idiot and that she is no longer to message me and blocked her.
AIBU as I was obviously devastated by the loss but felt once again she needed to make it about her- DH has only said no communication will make things harder but I don’t want someone like that talking to me