Wasn't sure where to post this. So basically a colleague at work who I work very closely with (I have a higher position than her and effectively her line manager ,very small office dept) has started to act coldly towards me. It started when I returned from a year off when she had been in charge. She's very dry, has ignored work requests during lockdown so not all on a personal level. I have remained the same as always, tried to be upbeat, friendly, never brought up any issues I've had about work. She's v friendly with another person in dept so I'm guessing when I wasn't around they've discussed issues they have with me. I work v hard so I'm secure in this respect. I suspect she would like my job title though.
She's recently had a baby, I text her when I heard through someone else. Sent a gift which has been delivered but she has not acknowledged. Planning to visit with a friend of hers. She never bought me one, or visited last baby.
I feel determined to take the high road with this as we have never had words, never had a cross word as have to work together for the next 10 years.
Has anyone ever took this route? Been the bigger person. Tried to be kind to someone despite their poor behaviour? Her religion teaches forgiveness, kindness etc but she is not showing it at all. I swear i have never been unreasonable with her but she is almost going out of her way to exclude me (along with other colleague). Before this I was involved in all social events etc. Was at her birthday etc.
AIBU to continue acting unaware of this frostiness and essentially showing kindness if that's what it is?