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Original poster

Missed delivery of MY Christmas present!

28 replies

Mindful86 · 22/12/2022 11:47

Today I missed the delivery of my own Christmas present from my partner. He’s annoyed that I’m not calling the post office to see if they’re open tomorrow, with strikes etc he thinks I won’t get it until 28th now.

AIBU to be annoyed? I’ve managed to buy for the entire family, 3 kids, nieces, neighbours, friends etc etc and wrap all the presents yet he’s clearly left buying for me until the last minute. I now have to try and go to the post office to collect my own present.

Is every man this disorganised? Should I expect more?

OP posts:
VimFuego101 · 22/12/2022 12:00

No, you shouldn't have to organise the logistics of your own gift.

Gizlotsmum · 22/12/2022 12:01

He might not have left it till the last minute, I ordered stuff 2 weeks ago which is still to arrive. However he should be making the effort to collect it, the post office might be open tomorrow or Sat?

Vonniee7 · 22/12/2022 12:11

depends where you would normally collect it. Post offices are open but Royal Mail delivery offices will likely be closed due to the strikes tomorrow and Saturday.

Whatmarbles · 22/12/2022 12:13

I had a parcel delivered yesterday that was ordered the 28th of Nov, he hasn't necessarily ordered it last minute.

TequilaNights · 22/12/2022 12:14

YABU I have something I ordered on 26th Nov, I have no idea when it will arrive.

Original poster
Mindful86 · 22/12/2022 12:14

Just to update, he definitely has left it to the last minute. He said it’s my fault as he’s been asking me for months what I want!

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SirDavidAttenborough · 22/12/2022 12:15

So did he order your present to be delivered in your name, so would make fuck all effort to receive or wrap the present?

PingPongMerrilyWithPie · 22/12/2022 12:17

As PP, some things have been very delayed by the post so I would give him the benefit of the doubt on the timings.

Doesn't mean you have to drop everything and rush to the post office though.

Ihatethenewlook · 22/12/2022 12:18

Is there something stopping him from phoning up or collecting it?

Nagado · 22/12/2022 12:29

Will the Post Office let you have it? Won’t it be addressed to him?

No, not all men are like that and, yes, you should be expecting more. Was he not going to bother wrapping it? I hope you hand his present over in an Asda carrier bag if not. Lazy fuck! He needs to get his arse down to the Post Office. If you had to do this much work to get it, he should have just given you the cash and you could have added it to the list of presents you already had to buy for other people! I’m surprised he wasn’t too lazy to tap his card number in. He hasn’t given you a present. He’s given you extra work.

Original poster
Mindful86 · 22/12/2022 12:34

I’m hoping because we live at the same address they might let me have it?! He's probably paid extra to have it in some kind of gift box/wrap.

He’s been ‘working’ this week so hasn’t been able to get to the shops apparently!

OP posts:
Zingy123 · 22/12/2022 12:38

Post Office and Royal Mail are different companies. Royal Mail delivery offices will be closed tomorrow because of the strikes.

thebear1 · 22/12/2022 12:43

Why can't he collect it himself? That is what would annoy me.

fancyacuppatea · 22/12/2022 12:43

If it's in his name, he'll need to go to collect it or arrange re-deliver (good luck with that).
Any idea what it might be? If it's something you're not bothered about, leave it to him.

BoringLittleMe · 22/12/2022 12:49

My DH has, I hope think, already had my present arrive, as there have been three boxes on the floor in the hallway for the past week or so.

I anticipate at about 9am on Christmas Day he's going to ask me where the wrapping paper and sellotape are.

bellsbuss · 22/12/2022 12:49

I thought you could collect sand day of missed delivery after 1pm

bellsbuss · 22/12/2022 12:50

Same

BarbaraofSeville · 22/12/2022 13:33

They'll let you have it if you take the right ID (his I think, check the card)

However, if you've chosen the item and are thinking about going to collect it, how is this a present from him? What's his involvement in all this? Clicking a button and typing in a card number to pay for something from (presumably) joint/connected finances, doesn't really count as 'buying you a present'. Where's the thought, choosing something he thinks you'd like?

thelobsterquadrille · 22/12/2022 13:35

Why didn't he get it delivered to his work?

I always used to get parcels sent to work as it was easier than trying to go to the sorting office.

thelobsterquadrille · 22/12/2022 13:36

bellsbuss · 22/12/2022 12:49

I thought you could collect sand day of missed delivery after 1pm

The cards that go through the door say you can only collect from the next day.

Jacksfesteringresentment · 22/12/2022 13:40

bellsbuss · 22/12/2022 12:49

I thought you could collect sand day of missed delivery after 1pm

Your supposed to wait till the next day, but I used to go after 3 the same day and it was always there.

Ihatethenewlook · 22/12/2022 13:47

You can collect it as long as you bring some of his ID. My oh picks up stuff for me all the time, and I pick stuff up for my neighbours. Just bring his passport or bank card

DaftyInTheMiddle · 22/12/2022 13:47

You can try collect it. They often say next day but I have often collected same days. You’ll need to take his ID in though, they won’t (or shouldn’t) let you collect without that.

gamerchick · 22/12/2022 13:50

He has one thing to do and he's offloading that on you as well?

Ask him that and why you should? I hope you haven't forked out for his family as well.

No way I'd be going to any sorting office this time of year.

OrigamiOwls · 22/12/2022 14:07

Men need to have a higher bar! I would be expecting my partner to arrange my Christmas present & the logistic of recieving it without me being involved.