Not mine but it was via facebook.
"Don’t treat your work colleagues better than her.
I spoke to a woman once who was crying to me about her marriage.
She sobbed and sobbed and i too started to tear up because I felt her pain come through her tears.
She told me how on paper, her life was perfect.
She had a husband with a good job, she didn’t have to work if she didn’t want to (her words)
She had a big house
She bought all the things she wanted..
And she she told me all of this and said, “but you know what? I’m miserable.”
“I’m an invisible person at home.
I don’t have goals.
I don’t have a job.
I don’t have independence
And I don’t have love.
Sure, my husband treats me well. But he doesn’t laugh with me, like he does at work. He doesn’t enjoy his time at home, like he does at work. He doesn’t make the effort with me, like he does at work.
He treats his work colleagues better than me.”
I’ve heard this so much.
And I get it, work is a challenge, it’s motivation to perform.
But your work colleagues should not know more than your spouse does. If they do it means you’re investing more time into those relationships than the most important one you have.
Because like the woman I spoke to, you are leaving “the love of your life” feeling minimised, unsupported and feeling like they have to hold home life together, all alone.
And if your work colleagues make your life happier than your partner does, then make your partner happy by setting them free.
Don’t treat your work colleagues better than your wife.
Better than your partner.
Than your husband.
Because when someone loves you, and they are sobbing to a stranger about how heart broken they are for you, then that is a sure sign that you are loved and have been loved in all your worse moments.
9-5 doesn’t show any of those.
Remember that."