My ex hasn’t had contact with our children for 2 years (completely his choice) he got back in contact recently asking to see them. The advice on MN was to start up contact again however he was meant to come down yesterday and cancelled on the day, he said he would come today and again cancelled today. He is now asking to come tomorrow but I’m thinking this is not a good start of things to come as he has cancelled two days in a row now. I’ve tried to be understanding the first time but two days in a row? I have also tried to explain how important consistency is but he doesn’t understand and feels nothing about cancelling. How many times should we be arranging this until I give up as I am busy and have things to do (very busy week for everyone!) and I’ve even cancelled plans to be in for him.
For a bit of background he last saw our children 2 years ago when he was suppose to turn up for one of their birthdays and just didn’t show up, didn’t even bother to cancel that just a no show and ignored my messages, he also cancelled contact if it was raining etc so not unusual behaviour for him and he has never ever been consistent since we split.