My mother died a few months ago, and a friend in the village is keeping an eye on the house, forwarding post etc. She has one key, I have two, and Joan next door has one. I live overseas.
When we went back for the funeral, I found that the back door had been left unlocked. It wasn’t my friend, as she didn’t have a key at that point, so it had to be Joan. Joan denied all knowledge and said she hadn’t been in, but then admitted she had given her key to Maureen down the road to check on the house. I read her the riot act and said not to let Maureen go in, even with good intentions, as she hadn’t locked the door.
My friend has visited twice recently and on both occasions has found the door unlocked. Joan has vehemently denied that either she or Maureen have been in. Obviously I’ve no way of proving this, or the existence of another key, although I had the originals cut. I am quite sure my Mum hadn’t given the key to anyone else. I am now going to have to have the locks changed, and fly back specifically to do this. I’m contemplating CCTV as well.
AIBU to feel quite unsettled by this? Joan had the key for emergencies when my Mum was alive, so I don’t plan on giving her another key. My Mum also couldn’t stand Maureen, and certainly wouldn’t want her snooping about.