Anyone ever feel sort of invisible?

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Was woken up my Dd, 4 this morning, shouting about something, Dh rushing around for work, asking for this or that, kisses Dd goodbye, friends are great but not sure if they’d notice massively if I stopped responding in group chat. Parents obviously love me but have reached an age/stage where they’ve become quite selfish and entitled and expect me to do loads for them and don’t really help with Dd
Is it just me?

Perhaps that confirms it 😂

Maybe they take you for granted...but they love you I am sure!

When I feel like that, I tend to give myself time out. By that I mean I only do necessary activities. And spend as little time as possible with other humans, I then end up missing them. It is a circle. I'm an introvert.

Feel for you. Sounds like your life is really busy these days. Is that paying a big role in your relationship with husband and friends? Do you feel like you're all too busy for proper catch ups and alone time? If so, I wouldn't take it personally. Actually, I wouldn't take it personally in any case!

Lots of people are having hard times at the moment - even just Christmas time can be tough, let alone COL crisis and worries about the state of world. I'm sure many people are feeling low and unloved, we all do at some points I think.

So you're not alone in how you're feeling, be kind to yourself. Maybe check in and connect with husband. Sounds like you're doing your best for your family, so that means you're v important indeed to them.

I feel like this sometimes too OP, just a bit stuck in a rut. It always seems to pass though.

I think sometimes we have to actively prevent people seeing us as support humans.

Mothers and wives are expected to do so much with so little thanks and credit and nowadays most of us work as well and often have elder caring responsibilities.

It’s so easy to get sucked into this but we owe it to ourselves sometimes to have decent boundaries and to force people to acknowledge us.

My mum spent her life facilitating other people’s needs and never acknowledged her own as important. Then she would periodically get angry and lash out at people for not showing more gratitude but she never actually asked for the respect she wanted.

I am much more selfish and while I will bend over backwards to help people I love I refuse to be treated as a default carer/facilitator/admin. You have to push back sometimes.