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Should I be over it?

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Forever2016 · 20/12/2022 23:53

Around 3 years ago on a night out, I had lost my friends and saw a familiar face across the bar. It was someone who I didn’t know very well but felt comfortable enough to have a drink with. He knows my family pretty well and is friends with my cousin. Stupidly, I decided to go back to his friends house, there were 3 of us, for a drink. Silly choice by me and I should have just gone home.
We were all having a laugh and silly banter. General chit chat.
No flirting at all. I didn’t and don’t fancy him in the slightest and was clear in my actions that it wasn’t anything more than a drink and a chat. I wasn’t drunk enough to give mixed signals. He poured me a drink and the next thing I remember is waking up in the dark, with him on top of me. I knew what was happening but I couldn’t move or even speak. I tried to move but then just passed out again. I woke up the next day and there were more men sat on the sofa (3)
but I don’t even remember them being there from the night before but they were saying how drunk I was and how I was all over the guy I know. The guy who I know was rolling a fag and sprinkling something on the top of it and when I asked him what it was, he said it was Roofies, and that’s what I gave you! It took a while to realise what that was but then I ran to the toilet and burst out crying as I remembered what happened. One guy came to see if I was ok and he confronted the guy I know. I don’t think any of the men apart from the one I know, had any part in what happened. It’s silly,
I shouldn’t still think about it but i still feel violated. I never reported it but wondering if I did the right thing? I still see his name pop up on social media etc and it makes my blood boil. This guy has a family and a young teenage daughter. Let’s hope nobody treats his daughter like he treated me 🤢

OP posts:
Lennon80 · 20/12/2022 23:56

He basically drug raped you. Bastard!

Newusernameaug · 20/12/2022 23:58

I’m so sorry, he drugged and raped you xxx

NotToBeOrToBe · 21/12/2022 00:01

So he gave you Rohypnol and raped you. No, you shouldn't be over this, of course not !

Could you see someone to talk it over ?

Nearlychristmas123 · 21/12/2022 00:05

How long ago did this happen? So sorry OP?

do you realise you are seriously minimising this? Of course you shouldn’t get over it. It’s very likely if you were drugged that you were sexually assaulted.

Do you feel you could report it? Get some professional help?

Forever2016 · 21/12/2022 00:14

It’s always on my mind but I’ve never reported it, I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone close to me because as wrong as it sounds, I don’t want to be a victim. I know it’s stupid. I just had to write it down and get it off my chest. On the other hand, he shouldn’t get away with it. Oh it’s frustrating.

OP posts:
Nearlychristmas123 · 21/12/2022 19:13

its really not stupid, as a strong independent you don’t want to be a victim, but you are a victim of a crime. Being a victim doesn’t define you, it can empower you to seek justice.
hope you are doing okay

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