To hate hosting Christmas

[HulaHoop2012]

I host Christmas every year 7 adults and 2 kids (my own) because we have the biggest house.

Mum usually arrives 5 days before and rest of the family stay 23rd to 27th. My sister and my aunt are so vague and at the moment neither can confirm when they will arrive 23rd/24th … my sisters words were ‘we will go with the flow’ 🤯
to which I replied ‘I’ll see you on the 24th’ she’s now in a huff with me.

I’m already feeling anxious and stressed and it’s coming across like I’m being moody.

My biggest stress is cooking a dinner in an open plan kitchen where my mum and aunt constantly butt in … open oven doors, prod stuff, make comments like ‘don’t make the veg mushy’.

Last year I made it clear I would ask
for help when needed and even gave out jobs if people wanted to be involved but it was still the same.

My mums just got in a huff because again I’ve told her I’ll ask for help when needed and for her to relax… last year she turned the oven up and burnt the ham.

I know the simple answer is not to host but apart from the volume of work I actually enjoy it and love our family coming together for Christmas.

I honestly don’t know what more to say so might resort to ‘get the F* out the kitchen’ and drink more, although by the time I served dinner last year I was hiccuping.

I feel stressed and moany 🙁

Send them for a pre-lunch walk.
Oh, and give them all a day/time that you'll expect them to arrive..."going with the flow" is bollocks.

No I’m. Not a martyr so I’d say I was going out for Xmas dinner at x place and they can join if they like

Yes I need to man up.

I’m such a people pleaser 🥴

Told them all to come on the 24th.

Hubby said he’ll tell them to keep out the kitchen and be more aware.
He didn’t realise how stressed I get just thought my family make me nuts.

I can hear my mum huffing and puffing 😆

When we have people over, my DP guards the door to stop people coming in 🤣 it drives me MAD when people start interfering, even if they think they're being helpful. I wouldn't even open a pan lid in someone else's home and yet people have often come in and opened my oven door ruining my yorkshires!!!!!

Scream “don’t touch that” whilst waving a knife in their direction. You’ll only need to do it twice.

Find your inner Peggy Mitchell persona and scream “GET OUTTA MY KITCHEN” if mum and aunt come near.

I am not allowed to help my daughter and her partner with the cooking. I’m ‘allowed’ to carve the meats…I’m trusted with sharp knives but not wooden spoons. ‘Step away from the gravy mam’
I do as I’m told. My main job is to keep the grandkids occupied…when I’m not waving a knife around.