Does the romance ever get better?

[PainfulAnkles]

So we, or more like I, have a problem with lack of romance in our relationship.
And now wondering if this is going to only get worse in time and kill me inside.

Yes, I have talk to him about it, he says he’s going to do something about and then nothing.

Google "the five love languages" and see if the way he expresses love is different from how you would like to receive it. If he's not using any of them, you have a problem.

Was there romance, that’s gone? Or has there never been any?

If he's never been romantic then I'd say its unlikely to change. If he was romantic but you're both taking each other for granted a bit because you're at a difficult stage in life (small children, work related pressure, busy lives) then that's something that can be worked on.

Depends if it’s been there before, why you think it’s changed and what romance looks like to both of you. Some people find tea in bed romantic as it’s caring, other people like gifts and flowers, for others it’s touch and hugs, others compliments etc. He may feel he’s showing effort in areas you don’t appreciate? What do you do that’s romantic for him?

I guess he was never that romantic, now that I think about it.
It was always me, until I grew tired of it.
And also he always correlated romance to sex, so that was thing we had to talk through first.

We’re young, childfree, healthy couple, so no excuses.

I’ve been really unsatisfied lately and feeling like this is the end honestly.
I’ve never broken up before, I think that’s whats keeping me here.

Change is scary but not as much as a future of frustration and missing the fulfilment you want.

It totally sucks, I've been there and no, it doesn't get better.

I'm now married to wonderful DH who makes me feel special every single day.

Thanks.
I’ll wait until Christmas is over and tell him.
I’ll just have to figure out what to say.

What's the rest of your relationship like?

He's not for you. Find one you like more.