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Bizarre trio behaviour....

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LovelyIssues · 20/12/2022 11:19

A strange one I think but possibly more common than I think?

So long story short I am in a trio of friends. We meet weekly, talk daily, very very good friends. Me & one other are closer with each other, we are just more sociable and our DC are very close. The one I am closer with let's call her "Sally" acts different whilst on our group chat compared to when it's just me and her talking.

For example me and Sally will have planned to meet for dinner, she'd arranged it and us talking back and fourth about what she's cooking etc all very happy but at the same time on our group chat will say she's "so done with today". She acts mopey on the group, to the point the other friend is concerned she has depression. It's so odd as when she texts me and sees me she's completely normal, happy as larry. I haven't outright asked why she does this but did pull her up about it over a Christmas party as she was making out on the group chat she wasn't feeling well and might not make the party. But her son was back and fourth messaging me saying she's fine, they were visiting a family member and were definitely coming.

It is really odd! Can someone help me make sense of it please?

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MamaFirst · 20/12/2022 11:22

So is she making up/exaggerating her mood in the group, or putting on a front when it's just you two?

LovelyIssues · 20/12/2022 11:27

@MamaFirst that's what I'm wondering. It's really confusing me...she makes plans as much as me and I've said before after reading what she's wrote on the group chat "oh let's leave it this evening then if you're not up to it" but she always comes. And is completely herself.

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MrNook · 20/12/2022 11:36

Is it only when you've got plans just the two of you that she acts like that? Maybe to spare the third friend feeling left out/upset?

Stressedmum2017 · 20/12/2022 11:39

Weird. Maybe some sort of attention/sympathy thing. I'd ask her direct next time you are face to face and see what she says.

LovelyIssues · 21/12/2022 20:10

@MrNook no not just when we have plans and other friend definitely never feels left out.

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LovelyIssues · 14/01/2023 16:36

She's back at it again this week in full throttle

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