AIBU?
80 year old DM always wants to have control over everything and Christmas is no different. Me, my 13 year old and DH always have out parents to dinner on Xmas day but Mum is going to DB this year as he lives miles away and she feels she should take turns. I have no problem with this its her choice but....
She always needs to have some element of control and this year she has decided that she would like to come to our house at New Year. Okay....... but she will save the Xmas gifts until then! I told her I would rather she didn't do that for her Granddaughter as she will want to open her gift on Xmas day. So we compromised and she has given her a small gift to open for Xmas day. She has bought her a few gifts and thos just doesn't feel right to me. Mum said she likes to see her face when opening them and that's why she is rationing them!!! Why don't I feel comfortable with this.
She then said she would come NYE and I offered her to stay in the spare room. She said she would.like that. Now she is saying she might not want to so if we are having a drink and can't take her home, she will just come on NY day instead! But I don't know if I want all this. She wants me to cook another Christmas dinner and she will help. I just feel like I am doing all this on Christmas day and she is invited but if she has other plans, that's fine but why should I feel like I have to do it all over again because she wasn't there on the day! She is wanting to recreate it but I don't know how I will feel on NYE. We usually have a takeaway because I don't want to cook. We always have a quiet, relaxing NY. I don't mind having her over but it's always at her control. She didn't wait to be invited, just invited herself and told me what was going to happen.