Husband gave me his awful cold in the week before Christmas

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I know I probably am being unreasonable however, I'm feeling sorry for myself and would like others opinions.

My DH had an awful respiratory infection that turned into a cold last week. I slept in a separate room and asked him to keep his distance until he was feeling better. He really struggled with the 'keeping his distance' and would talk to me, cough near me at what felt like every opportunity (I don't begrudge a conversation and I was looking after him at the time).

I now have his illness and am a bit annoyed with him for it. We have family coming to stay and the majority of the hosting will be up to me. He knew I was trying to avoid his germs before Christmas. When I had COVID in 2021 he stayed well away and didn't catch it. Why couldn't he have done the same this time!

Yabu

Don't blame him! If you share a house with someone who has a cold then you will get it.

Sorry that you are feeling ill, it's just one of those things.

Try and take it easy for the next couple of days and hopefully you will feel a little better by the weekend.

I get unwell every Christmas, usually because I'm working right up to the last minutes and when the christmas break finally comes my body just gives up. Apparently it's a real thing, when you get unwell during holidays and pretty common even during non lurgy seasons.

Dose up on drugs, get early nights whenever possible, share the hosting duties with DH (not sure why you wouldnt do this anyway?) And get on with it.

You cant blame him for you getting sick, winter is a smorgasbord of viruses and this winter is even worse than usual. I've been unwell for going on 9 weeks, just gotta power through.

Today is perfect day to catch a cold as likely gone by Christmas. Also difficult to avoid when living together.

You’re unreasonable to think you can avoid passing a highly infectious, droplet-spread cold between two of you when you live in the same house. We always assume that if one of us gets a virus, the other either already has it, or will do shortly, even if one takes to the spare bed.

But you’re not unreasonable to expect him to step up and take the lion’s share of the effort of hosting Christmas if he”s feeling better and you’re not.

Are your guests happy to come and have germ soup for Christmas lunch? They might not be, and that would make things much easier for you.

YANBU to be annoyed- we are all entitled to feel angry about things that happen to us. However I’m pretty certain he didn’t intend to give you his cold and also it’s still 5 days until Christmas so you will almost certainly be feeling mostly or completely better by then.

Rest up as much as possible and delegate tasks.

Its actually an interesting point that since the days of self isolation etc we’re imposed upon us we have perhaps absorbed a message that it must be due to someone else’s lack of care that we catch anything at all.

Get well soon.

Mate - I watched a little boy with a horrible cold and cough holding my daughters hand at nursery and literally wipe his snotty nose with his and her hand - then he gave a sloppy Kiss before she left !

i now have that cold and feel like shit - I’m not angry at the child though - this is just life surely 😂😂😂😂🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

YAB massively U.

No one gives another person a cold on purpose, it’s just one of those things. You live in the same home!! completely ridiculous to be upset about it

YABU. One in a household has it, you all do, and you could have just as easily been sneezed on paying for petrol.

Oh for goodness sake. You have a cold. It’s life. Get a grip!

That's life. My 3 year old DC sneezed in my eye and I laughed knowing what's coming. I'm just getting over the cold now.

Another poster mentioned we walk around mingling with infectious people (the latter of which don't yet feel ill) and there's no avoiding that unless you put yourself into isolation.

If we didn't mingle and "catch things" and isolated ourselves we would have no immunity to colds and flu and our bodies wouldn't be able to cope when we finally do become virus ridden.

It just can't be helped. We can't find a culprit or someone to blame for having a cold. It's just part of life, even if it's the week before Christmas.

I always catch colds before important events, especially interviews. It's life.

YABU, hope you feel better soon. If you are still ill by the end of the week then just get DH involved with the prep and hosting.

He had almost certainly transmitted the cold virus to you before his symptoms began to show; if one person in a house is ill; you usually find everyone else get the illness in increments of three to four days later
And I doubt he gave it to you on purpose; sharing is caring he loves you, 😂