How many times

[StonwEd]

I know I'm not being unreasonable.
How many times should I allow my husband to lie about quite serious things before I leave him?
Money things, this time he's been covering something up for over a year. We're not in any financial trouble so I know that doesn't make a lot of sense but he has lied again.
I said I'd leave if he ever did it again, he's done it again.
I can't trust him but he says he's let things get on top of him, he's not coping etc.
He still didn't turn to me when he needed help and just lied instead.
As the old line goes, he's a great guy, blah fucking blah
No kids together, just really really intertwined lives. I own the house.

This will never ever get better. If you stay, you're staying for life.

Depends on the lie. Possibly zero tolerance, maybe max once.

Did you really mean your AIBU to be "how many times?", OP?

I mean, it's not really about the number of lies he tells if you can't trust him, is it?

If you can't work out why he's lying about these things or what he's trying to cover up and if he won't address the underlying issues, that's not a relationship I'd want to stay in.

And you say you have 'really intertwined lives', but people who stay together don't end up getting less intertwined over the years, do they?

If you don't get out now, you're potentially going to be far more intertwined in a year or two when the secrets and lies become so damaging that you reach your limit. And then you'll be kicking yourself that you didn't get out now, when it's already become a problem and you knew you couldn't trust him.

I’m at this point with my DH; I really love him but I can’t trust him because of big and little lies and I can’t live like it any more

I’d get out now before it’s too late.

There’re plenty of men out there, you don’t need to settle for this

Sorry to hear this.
He's a fundamentally good man but I can't live like this.