"Unwanted Gift"

44PumpLane · 19/12/2022 09:56

You simply have to spend a little time on these boards to see that many many people are given things they haven't asked for, that they don't want, and by people who would be super offended if you asked for the receipt to swap it.

It's strange!

Years ago my parents bought a pair of his and hers Rolexes second hand as they were an "unwanted gift".....I always wondered who takes a punt on a pair of Rolexes for a gift!!!

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 19/12/2022 10:00

It's used as a plausible explanation for selling a brand new item - be aware that it might not be true!

KeyWorker · 19/12/2022 10:00

I see it all the time on my local Facebook selling page. Dyson hair dryer. Unwanted gift, used once. I always guess that they purchased it for themselves but then realised they’ve over spent or whatever.

kingtamponthefurred · 19/12/2022 10:10

Well, a lot of them are stolen goods.

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 19/12/2022 10:24

This is a silly bloody question. If people giving the gifts knew they weren’t wanted, presumably they wouldn’t give them?

melj1213 · 19/12/2022 10:27

A lot of the time it's stolen goods - I work in a supermarket and you'd be surprised the amount of times we'd have the likes of electricals (hair tools/shavers etc) and perfume sets stolen only to see the same items on FB as "unwanted gifts, unused/used once and didn't like it but no receipt to return" a few days later at a fraction of the RRP ... Pure profit for them.

Obviously there's some genuine unwanted gifts but tbh I could never post on FB as I'd be too worried the person who gave me the item would see it and be offended or insulted that I not only didn't like what they gave me but also advertised the fact it was a gift that was unsuitable.

FTY765 · 19/12/2022 10:32

I regift unwanted gifts.
Can't be arsed with marketplace anyway.

girlmom21 · 19/12/2022 10:35

Some people would be very offended to be asked for a gift receipt especially when they bought the gift in the January sales.

Lots of others are just stolen.

DuplicateUserName · 19/12/2022 10:36

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 19/12/2022 10:24

This is a silly bloody question. If people giving the gifts knew they weren’t wanted, presumably they wouldn’t give them?

This!

Honestly, I thought it was a trick question or something.

SpinningFloppa · 19/12/2022 10:38

My mum always buys me things I don’t want for Xmas, and for my kids, she would be offended if I asked for the receipt and the stuff she buys my children is always from the charity shop so would be pointless asking for one 😏

JubileeTrifle · 19/12/2022 10:46

We have a family member who buys all those gift sets in boots and then just distributes them to everyone. We’ve had the same set three times from them.
She thinks she’s brilliant at gift buying.

BarbaraofSeville · 19/12/2022 10:48

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 19/12/2022 10:24

This is a silly bloody question. If people giving the gifts knew they weren’t wanted, presumably they wouldn’t give them?

Of course they do. Look at all the 'what can I buy someone who doesn't want or need anything and has said they don't want Christmas gifts but I couldn't possibly respect their wishes and do just that' threads on here.

Plus people are too polite to be honest when given gifts and have to be grateful even if they'd rather not have to deal with the thing they don't want and might not be suitable for their needs/preferences.

There would be a lot less angst and waste in the world if we got away from this ridiculous notion that we need to exchange significant gifts with other adults.

Fine to give token consumables as an acknowledgement of the season, sharing, thinking of each other etc but the rest is just pointless mostly.

Fusciainertia · 19/12/2022 10:51

I think unwanted gifts are usually when people who aren't that close to you buy you a generic token gift.

I've got a few family members who I have to buy for but don't spend much time with them so I don't really know what they would really like so I just have to guess. I'm sure I don't get it right most of the time.

sheepdogdelight · 19/12/2022 10:59

NoAlexa · 19/12/2022 09:54

When I see these words on an advert "Unwanted birthday gift" I always wonder, why are people buying you stuff you dont want

(and why dont you get a gift receipt so you can exchange it)

Because my parents don't understand "please don't buy me anything, and if you must buy me something buy me x,y or z) and buy the most bonkers items (clothes that I would never wear and are 6 sizes too big; a serving dish too big to fit on our table; a breadmaker when we already have one we don't use; posh glasses for the 5th year running...)
And they generally buy stuff when they are on holiday or from small shops that's are near their house (but 4 hours away from mine). And also they get offended if I am less than effusive about the present I don't like and asked not to have.

sheepdogdelight · 19/12/2022 11:01

WomanStanleyWoman2 · 19/12/2022 10:24

This is a silly bloody question. If people giving the gifts knew they weren’t wanted, presumably they wouldn’t give them?

An awful lot of people think that gift buying is more about the giver feeling good about themselves than the gift being something that the recipient actually wants.

Loics · 19/12/2022 11:05

I either sell unwanted gifts or just put them straight in a bag for charity when the shops are open again after Christmas. I once mentioned, offhand, how I like a certain type of candle (no, not Yankee! 😁), now my in-laws entire side buy me candles (rarely the ones I mentioned I liked) for every birthday and Christmas. Some are nice, but I just don't have the space for any more at the moment, so they are genuinely unwanted gifts. MIL is prone to a good, full-on tantrum (think crying, wailing, slamming doors) over little things so it's not worth saying anything.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 19/12/2022 11:55

KeyWorker · 19/12/2022 10:00

I see it all the time on my local Facebook selling page. Dyson hair dryer. Unwanted gift, used once. I always guess that they purchased it for themselves but then realised they’ve over spent or whatever.

My sail's boyfriend got her one and she doesn't even use a hairdryer

zingally · 19/12/2022 12:25

A fair proportion of them are stolen. I would never buy anything of high value off a facebook page.

Hopelessacademic · 19/12/2022 13:02

I have sold unwanted gifts on ebay! Wouldn't on facebook though as they might see it!
Eg last year my SIL-to-be got us a fancy water jug. We already have several and I don't really like it and she didn't give a receipt, so I sold it. I don't want to hurt her feelings, it was a sweet thought, but not wanted.
Usually I let ebay relist it a couple of times then if it hasn't sold it goes to the charity shop!

TokyoSushi · 23/12/2022 22:23

But it's so rude though, can you imagine spending time choosing something for somebody and then seeing it on marketplace as an 'unwanted gift.' Why do people even need to write that?

Agree quite a lot of it is stolen.

pursudebyablackdog · 24/12/2022 00:09

I think some people just aren't very good at buying gifts. I have family members who just don't have the ability to think what someone might like, I also have family members who re-gift unwanted presents without actually thinking would 'X' like this.
Other family members are really good at gift giving. Ds always gives lovely gifts, he puts a lot of thought into what a person would like. Dd always buys what she would like, not thinking whether the recipient would like it!

FrozenGhost · 24/12/2022 00:23

I've put this, as pp said, when I've bought something for myself or received it as a wanted gift, but then I didn't really like it. It doesn't sound like the best advertisement to say "this looked really good but I found it was a bit crap actually". Not very encouraging for others to buy it off you. So you can say "unwanted gift" as it sounds nicer.

SomeBeings · 24/12/2022 00:46

It's amazing the number of 'unwanted gift' airpods that appear on our local Facebook pages. Some of the sellers have been gifted more than one pair 😂😂

I imagine the chances of them not being contefit are ZERO