To make a gift for the in laws?

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I have been with dp about 18 months and although I have met and like his family we aren't super close to the point where I know them well enough to get personalised individual gifts for them all.

I am considering making a hamper of sorts with some nice homemade chutneys, crackers, gingerbread and biscuits - a selection of Christmasy nibbles and things for all of them to share as they will all be together on Christmas/Boxing day.

Would this be ok as a gift? I don't have a lot of spare money this year as I am travelling a long way to see my family but I'd like to give them something. I am a professional chef so my kitchen is scrupulously clean and I know how to make things taste good. I even have fancy labels and stuff to make the jars look pretty, I make a lot of my own preserves/chutneys and they always go down a treat!

Wibu? Asking for opinions as it's been a long time since I've had in laws to consider! I know some people would hate homemade food gifts and would rather something bought even if it's just a chocolate selection box but dp is vegan so it would have to be something he can enjoy too 😁

I’d say this sounds great but check what they like. My DM loves marzipan but I’m not mad keen on it.

That sounds perfect, so thoughtful.

AIBU to ask for the recipes ?

Sounds wonderful! Just check that they like what you're making though; I have a sweet tooth rather than savoury, so would love jam but never would eat chutney.
Only mentioning because I'd hate for your lovely work to go to waste!

I would be beyond delighted with such a thoughtful gift. ☺️

Op it sounds perfect and fab!!

Great gift

I would love that!

I would love to receive this as a gift, whether it’s savoury, sweet or a mix. We tend to exchange something similar with our DS’s girlfriends’s parents and none of us are professional cooks. I think it’s ideal if you don’t really know the folks well enough to give individual presents.

Sounds lovely - I’d be delighted with that.

Other opinions are available

That sounds lovely, I would be very happy to receive home made jams and chutneys from my sons partners, in fact I would think it was a lovely gift.

I’m just not keen on chutneys, biscuits, cake, etc, my cupboard is full of those sort of goods and they’re just not to my taste! I feel so bad when I have to eventually throw them out, especially as I can’t take them to a food bank etc., and I know someone has spent time on them so I feel guilty for throwing them straight in the bin!!

Well then you chose to take on all the “woman’s work” then. I didn’t, it is up to my husband to sort presents for his dad and then he gives them from both of us.

So I kind of agree with previous poster, if this is a present from OP alone to her boyfriends parents, it seems nice but a bit over the top. If it from both of them, he should be coming up with the ideas.

Why does your partner need to enjoy it, if it’s for your in-laws? Does he live with hud mum and dad?

@Anewhoo regifting, schools, clubs, advert on fb.

Totally get you with the badly made amateur, but a nicely homemade hamper lots of people would be grateful for.

Having flash backs to the boiled onion chutney, ie boiled onions sliced given to me once! Would not have regifted that.

@Aprilx I was intending for it to be just a present from me, he's either already got or is in the process of getting his own presents for them 😊

@Logginglogger he doesn't live with them (we live together) but as they are all going to be hanging out on Christmas and Boxing Day I'd feel a bit bad putting a load of things in it he couldn't eat as they will probably share it all.

@spidereggs 🤢 I don't blame you for not wanting that!

Sounds fabulous, bet they’ll be delighted.

My friend made me homemade cookies (in my favourite niche flavour) in a vintage jar with a ver pretty Eastern European embroidered ribbon one year as she was broke after her divorce. ( I still have the jar and the ribbon which I keep my cotton balls in. I can’t remember anything else I was given that year but I thought the cookies were super thoughtful and remember them years later.

I prefer homemade gifts though. Lucky Inlaws I say!