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Really not liking myself

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miawallace33 · 18/12/2022 22:28

Ugh this is a senseless moan really. I know I'm the only one who can change things but I honestly don't know how. I'm stuck in such a rut. I can't seem to commit to change and I'm exhausted with a very clingy baby which doesn't help motivation either.

The way I look depresses me. Im only late thirties but my face is haggard. Im overweight. I lack energy because I eat a shit diet of processed convenience food. I have bad anxiety that I've tried many things to solve (medication, therapy etc). Nothing seems to help. I hate my job and am dreading going back after my maternity leave ends in January. I want to retrain but I haven't even got the gumption to figure out what I want to do.

I am permanently stressed and overwhelmed which makes me snappy and snide to my dh. He is patient to a point but he doesn't really understand why I'm such a cow sometimes and nor do I if I'm honest. I just really really dislike myself.

I'm not sure if it's gotten worse since having my baby. It's definitely made me more stressed as I can't get anything done. But l think I've always been one of these lazy, procrastinating people to an extent. I want to do things (lose weight, retrain, have a clean tidy house, de clutter) but something always seems to stop me.

This is a very pointless rant. I just wondered if anyone else is similar and if so how did you overcome things and turn things around? For me it seems like I'm my own worst enemy but I don't know how to fix things.

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Soproudoflionesses · 18/12/2022 22:32

I think start small op. You sound a bit overwhelmed with everything. Make one small change a week then move onto the next thing.

miawallace33 · 18/12/2022 23:14

I think you're right, it has to be small steps, but I feel so useless I can't even figure out where to start. I do feel very overwhelmed with life in general.

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Nativitie · 18/12/2022 23:19

I can really relate OP it's shit isn't it.

I'm thinking of going on the low carbon meat and low carb veg with a bit of dairy diet in the new year. Its meant to reduce inflammation and helps you to lose weight without calorie counting. I am so going to start walking again.

With everything else, I would have a small aim for every week or two or it may feel a bit too much especially with a little one. Just wanted to say you are not alone.

Nativitie · 18/12/2022 23:22

I meant low carb!!

miawallace33 · 19/12/2022 07:49

Thank you @Nativitie I'm sorry you're feeling rubbish too. I think diet is a great starting point. If I can lift my mood and energy levels I may start feeling like the rest is more achievable. I have lost a decent amount of weight on a few occasions before but it always seems to creep back on.

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