I (22F) have made a romantic mess. I am in a love triangle and I feel terrible. The long story as short as I can. I dated Guy 1 for two years while being in an open relationship long distant with Guy 2 (technically dated Guy 2 before Guy 1). I then moved to the country to formally be with Guy 2, broke up with Guy 1. Since then, Guy 1 has been attached to me and I to him because we are close friends and we dated during the pandemic. Guy 2 insists I tell Guy 1 we are actually totally dating now and he needs to move on. Guy 1 has put a lot of pressure on me with his mental health reliance, future mentions (like moving here to be with me), and more. It’s nothing against him at all, but I dont think I want that with him and I dont know why. I do know I want stuff with Guy 2, and if we stayed together I would have huge benefits. I feel like I have to choose and figure out my whole life because of them, and I’m not ready to do that. I’m here at least another year and a half, but I cant keep lying to Guy 1 and part of me really wants to stay here and be happy with Guy 2. Am I terrible for making this mess? Was I unreasonable to hide my relationship with Guy 2 from Guy 1? I really love them both, but it feels like it’s so much heavier than I was ready for from either of them and I fee very stressed. Going home for the holidays, I feel like I have to tell Guy 1, but I don’t know how to do it without hurting him (he explicitly said dating Guy 2 would be the biggest betrayal). Please help with any advice. Or if you have questions to help I’ll try to answer