Not really sure what I'm asking here. Probably a 'is it me'? I've been with OH for around 15 years and married a few years after we met. Scene setting: He has adult kids, only one of which he still sees. The others caused a LOT of trouble when they were basically adults. Their mother ran off with someone else when they were young. OH brought the kids up himself and they were all in teens when he met me. He and I have one child of primary school age.
OH has always clawed at his skin, he's been on various medications over the years and previously been told it may have caused this. Fast forward to this year and suddenly he's convinced we have bugs (he had a very dirty job at his work which he told me about) and this was apparently my fault. I apparently don't clean enough, our house is old fashioned (sorry money does not grow on trees). He's just stomped off in a huff as I've told him to phone the doctor as he has pink patches on his skin that won't disappear and he claws his skin till it bleeds.
before anyone says see a doctor. I'm not asking for medical advice. If he has a problem it's never his fault it's always someone else's. He'll comment in a negative way on peoples appearances etc and makes comment about his adult child's life he still talks to. Saying they'd be better off without their partner etc, that they don't love their partner. He's in the huff tonight because I said I wouldn't/couldn't call the GP for him. If he needs something taken back, picked up etc he expects me to do it. I work full time, mostly from home, I do all the school runs (he refuses as he works too far away). He's moaned about the state of the house today but left dishes in the sink after I had done them. I could quote more but I am fed up. My family hate him as he's overbearing and everything is always someone else's fault. He tried to get involved in a personal matter with my grandparents, which I said was their business not mine or his but he pushed it and pushed it and pushed it causing rows and upset.
Even when I was majorly ill he didn't take time off work to help (yet gave a different story to anyone he knew). He's in debt, I don't know how much. Thankfully the flat although small is mine not his. He does give me some money but that barely covers childcare costs and when I try and say things are going up so much he accuses me of fleecing him.
i have no sympathy for him if he loses anything, or the scratching etc because he's so horrible to everyone. He kept pushing with one of my friends Mum asking if she knew this person or that person because he knew where she was from quite well. My friend's Mum said no and kept saying no when he pushed the point till she got quite upset with him which later he called her stuck up (privately to me) because she asked him to stop!
sorry this has turned into an absolute rant because he's gone off in a huff. I'm dreading Christmas as he'll make it about him (again!).