I have a difficult relationship with my mum & dad due to issues in the past (think narcissistic tendencies) & for my own mental health I keep my distance. I’ve lived away from rest of my family for the last 5 years & as a result she’s been able to turn my relationship with my siblings awkward too. I’m not too concerned about myself though it really hurts at times, but feel for my children. She has no contact with 2 of them who are autistic - apparently because she “finds them difficult”, but has a close relationship with the other, something I find hard to explain to the other 2 as there is no real explanation.
the rest of the family are having Christmas together - we weren’t invited (running theme), I’ve just received the GP’s gift for the family (sent to the wrong address so I had to go & get it - she sent it from Amazon). It has a gift receipt, it’s a £34 gift. I know it’s not about the money, but these are people who will gift my brother £50 vouchers, other grandchildren similar amounts & each other weekends away / mulberry handbags etc. we get £6.80 each. I just so hurt for the children who have done nothing wrong & it feels like a big of a slap in the face. They don’t get many presents from DH’s family, but what they do get is usually quite thoughtful.
sounds really grabby & I don’t mean it like that, I’d prefer they offered to spend some time with the children, so it’s not about the money really.
not sure what to AIBU is! Maybe, am I wrong to be hurt by their behaviour?