A close relative wrote to my DC and suggested they (the relative) give a charity donation on behalf of the DC instead of a present. DC were to specify chosen charity. They way it was written implied DC were selfish if they didn't choose this. So they did. All good. They are teenagers and really don't need anything. They actually enjoyed thinking of what charity to choose although they did think it all a bit odd.
I contacted relative and asked if they would like a gift for DC or what charity their DC would like. They are also teenagers but younger. Relative was apoplectic and said they'd only offered the charity donation because I hadn't said what my DC wanted. I said that was fine, DC were a bit taken aback but it was a good idea. Relative continued to rant at me about it all being my fault. I repeated that charity good idea hence offering it back to their DC as an option.
Relative has form for turning molehill into mountain but was I BU to suggest the charity thing for her DC as well? I genuinely think it is a good idea. I cannot bear the swapping of crappy tat and would much rather not spend or spend it on a good cause.