To wish Dh was more like Bluey’s dad

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Dh, never seems to have much energy, I can see Dd craving his attention and asking him to play, which he often begrudgingly does, then tends to disappear for a bit, she’s forever asking where he’s gone. He likes to sit on the sofa with her, watching tv.
Just feel so sad for her really.

Or they play and it ends up with her in tears as she gets too bossy/angry and he says he’s not playing anymore

All I ever hear is ‘Let me just chill for a bit’

Erm, can you with a 4 year old? 🤷🏻‍♀️

Does anyone’s dc have a Bluey type dad?

Bluey's dad is sooooooo annoying, i couldnt stand being married to him

@MulderitsmeX 🤣Why?

He's going to be a total Disney dad when he and chilli divorce

I think Bluey’s dad is unrealistic and I’ve actually read it’s giving some men a complex 😂

A nice in between would be good. Is there something your dh is better at? Like is he good at reading or doing outdoor games? Focus on what he is good at and get him to do that. He might just struggle with this age. Does he take her out much? Maybe he needs some bonding time.

DH has a preference for watching TV with DD but when she wants to play barbies with her he would, he gives her horsey rides/piggy backs, colours with her, goes trampolining. He does stuff which he wouldn't necessarily choose to do because he loves her and it makes her happy. As do i, as should all parents sure!y

I don't think anyone is like Bandit!

Are you like Bluey's mum?

Is your DC like Bluey?

I don't think it's fair if only DH has to attain unrealistic levels of parenting.

Dh is like Bandit. He's such a great DF that yes, I feel my DC are lucky.

Or Topsy and Tim's Mum and Dad. They never lose their shit with those two.

I do wish we could be more like Chilli and Bandit, they make me feel like a shit parent. A lot of the stuff they want me to do with them is just so boring it's really hard to feign interest.

How old is your H. Is he fit and well?

DH is like Bandit. He’s much better than me in terms of being present during play time, but then I’m better than him at things too. Maybe your DH just needs to find what he’s good at and what he enjoys doing with your DC.

I think comparing your DH to a kids TV character is completely unfair.

I am probably more like your husband TBH. I find children extraordinarily boring. My daughter is the most wonderful, lovely child and at the same time I can only play with Bing or Dougie so many times before I want to abandon the family! I also need ALOT of space, the noise, the constant "Daddy, Daddy, Daddy" drives me insane - though my daughter would never know!

I tend to be the fun parent. I take her to soft play, bake cakes, paint, make things etc. She is MUCH more attached to my wife than me, though she comes to me for the fun. Her favorite is playing football with me in the nearby field, though she has a desire for me to kick the ball AT her which I think may need some psychoanalysis at some point!

As she gets older I am sure we will do more daughter/dad stuff though with her being 2 it is a bit hard to keep interest.

"Dh, never seems to have much energy, I can see Dd craving his attention and asking him to play, which he often begrudgingly does, then tends to disappear for a bit, she’s forever asking where he’s gone. He likes to sit on the sofa with her, watching tv.
Just feel so sad for her really."

You know Bluey isn't real right? lol All that energy and enthusiasm would be so irritating!

Bluey's dad also never seems to be at work. It's completely unrealistic to be that hands on, keep a full time job, a full fridge, a clean house, as well as keep on top of the social life they have e.g. the constant BBQs and visits from his brother.

I think Bandit and Chilli for that matter set really unrealistic expectations! My kids want me to play the games they've seen on there 😂 Love Bluey though and it has helped me up my game on occasion. I prefer doing activities over imaginative play though.

Does sound like your h/partner isn't much cop. Have you raised it with him?

Grandchildren asked for bluey yesterday and watched it I was making tea. Is bluey a kind of triangular shape dog?

I try to channel Flop in my interactions with the children. He was the epitome of good parenting before Bluey came along and raised the bar.

My DH is just like Bandit- goes to the pool/ holiday with nothing while I bring all the necessary stuff.

Even went on a long haul trip without packing any pants. Bandit doesn’t wear pants either so maybe he really is just like him.

Was your husband an energetic get up and go type before kids? My husband has always been very fit, into sport, up for trying new things, that's his personality. So yes he will happily take the kids out and chase them to help them to learn to ride a bike etc etc. That was him pre children too though. If your husband was the type to come home from work and sit on the sofa rather than dash back out to a sport well he isn't going to suddenly have a personality transplant because he had kids.