Uninviting sick relative to gathering

[Delphinous78]

Our family held an early Christmas meal that also doubled up as my DS' first birthday party.

On the morning of my Dsis casually mentioned that her five year old DD had a vomiting bug I asked when the last time she was sick she said, 1am and the party was due to start at 1pm. I gently said 'well, I guess you won't be coming then, that's such a shame', thinking that she wasn't actually thinking of coming. But she was and has now told the entire family that I uninvited her on the morning of the party.

My DM, who never misses the opportunity to play favourites, is stoking the fire and telling her that it would have been fine and I was over reacting and just being nasty. Two weeks before I drove 70 miles with my children to help set up my niece's party, I adore my niece and hate to think what they are saying to her. I have a newly turned one year old, five year and six year old, I don't want to risk a vomitting bug.

I'm now being ignored by most of the family and I'm just so tired of it. I don't think I was in the wrong.

I would 100% do the same.

You weren't in the wrong. Your mother would do well to wind her neck in, and your sister shouldn't be so self-centred.

You did exactly the right thing.

You did the right thing. Would I fuck be welcoming some kid with a vomiting bug a week before Christmas. It was rude of her to even contemplate coming.

I'd have done the same as you. They were being selfish and sometimes you have to stand up for yourself despite it annoying others. I imagine other guests are glad you told her not to come, even if they are keeping quiet.

You 100% did the right thing. The 48hr rule is there for a reason and nobody wants d&v for Christmas!

I would have done the same but also our family and friends would also understand to stay away if their children had a vomiting bug. Completely selfish!

It is standard protocol in UK schools and pre-schools that children should not return until after 48 hours of their last instance of vomiting. It is there for a reason.

Your sister was being incredibly selfish to your family and her child - I doubt her sick child felt like going to a party!

You just know if you'd let them come and then you got sick over Xmas both your mum and sister would insist you caught it "somewhere else"

There's not a chance I would have been in met with anyone from that household if at all possible any time of year, let alone so close to Christmas. What a selfish cow!

Your sister and mam are in the wrong. I wouldn't worry about it and if anyone said anything or tried to tell me i was wrong I'd be quick enough to put them straight. She wouldnt be able to put her child back into creche after that amount of time and creche rules are a good rule of thumb for illness

They sound like a right pair of shits, OP. Let them get on with it - they'll find something else to froth over sooner or later. You did the right thing.

Special place in hell for anyone who even contemplates passing on a vomiting bug in Christmas week.

You were right not to let your sister and niece attend, how awful it would be if you and your children became sick with the bug right before Christmas. It was selfish of your sister to think she would turn up without any thought of how many others would become sick as a result. I would have done the same as you.

This. You did the right thing.

It sounds like they were goading you, so you would uninvited them and then they can do the whole silent treatment/favourites. I mean, why mention the sick bug otherwise if you fully intended to keep your plans?

Definitely the right thing! I caught a vomiting bug from my niece who 'was fine now' and my DS also came down with it!

YANBU

This is such selfish behaviour though I'm guessing it's the tip of the iceberg

Yanbu

Who wants to catch this

She was going to drive 70 miles with a sick 5 year old?

If anyone mentions it, just laugh and say "Of course I didn't uninvite her! Whatever gave you that ridiculous idea! DNiece was ill and it's just one of those damned unlucky things. No-one wants to be giving people a tummy bug for Christmas, do they?"

YA definitely NBU!! Your sister is selfish, both for wanting to take a sick child on a long journey and for risking infecting everyone else! I'd be fuming.

Thank you all, I've spent far too long worrying about it and my husband is probably sick of me talking about it. It feels so stupid to say but after a lifetime of my Dsis and DM I can't even trust my own judgement. They've both done a lot of horrible things and this is fairly minor for them and I think they just didn't expect me to put my foot down. When I said that they weren't coming she tried to backtrack and say it was food poisoning.

The worst thing is she doesn't even drive so she was going to drag her DD on a train.

The train? The fuck is wrong with her?

Oh people like this are 😡😡😡