Meeting bf’s friends as the new woman (not other!)

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Due to meet new BF’s childhood friends over Xmas - casual drinks. I’m the first GF post divorce (3 years ago). His EXW is still very good friends with them all as they have known each other forever (she is best friends with one of the wives)

I’m terrified

(even though that sounds ridiculous!)

Any advice? Please help me be less socially stunted!

They are all parents and married for 10 years plus - I am of similar age but no kids and never married so worried little in common to spark more than a pleasant conversation

I tend to grow on people rather than make a big first impression. They’re all extrovert, big hitters, super successful. My Bf has not seen them for a while and is a bit on the outside of the group post divorce (the blokes making less effort to be in touch than the women)

I want him to re-engage with his friends and don’t want to be a reason for him not to do this successfully

Be yourself

Is the ex going to be there?

Smile, look interested in what they are saying; ask them about their children and their Christmas plans etc. hopefully they will be nice people too and ask about you also.

@Ellmau ex won’t be there (never met) but feel I will be ‘reported back on’ which is of course to be expected (I would do the same!)

still bloody terrifying!

I don’t have loads of hobbies or anything to make up for the lack of kids….

I’m a good person, interested in people, just worried I’ll come across as ‘nice’ as in boring when I suppose I want to impress!

Nothing wrong with being nice!

@Ellmau nice is good but not boring nice!

@Lost123454 good advice but I’d like to be the best version of me!

Does anyone have any other good first impression tips?

Be smiley and breezy! Pay them compliments, try to keep things that you talk about positive. Don’t get drunk.

You’ll be fine and I’m sure they’re all looking forward to meeting you.

Stay sober, ish. Listen well. Be yourself

That's about all you can do.