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My buyer keeps texting me

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Sophhhhhh · 17/12/2022 11:19

I recently sold my house. For various reasons me and my buyer swapped contact details (in hindsight, shouldn't have done this).

I've been in the new house now for just over a week now and I keep getting texts from my buyer (she's a woman on her own in her 50s). The most recent text was last night to tell me that she'd been woken up at 5:30am by a strange cat coming through the cat flap, it had upset her cat, and to ask how often did that cat hang around outside the house.

Would I be unreasonable to text her and ask her to stop contacting me? Block her? Carry on conversations? It's a little awkward as I only moved about a 2 minute drive from my old house so likely to bump in to her!

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Soothsayer1 · 17/12/2022 11:21

I would just take longer and longer to reply to the texts then I would ignore them all together

Blinki · 17/12/2022 11:22

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YellowTreeHouse · 17/12/2022 11:22

Just block. Don’t engage.

Remona · 17/12/2022 11:24

Block. What a bloody ridiculous thing to text you about. Can you imagine what will happen should something go wrong or break. She’ll be on your back.

Start as you mean to go on. Do not get involved.

strawberriesplease · 17/12/2022 11:25

Soothsayer1 · 17/12/2022 11:21

I would just take longer and longer to reply to the texts then I would ignore them all together

Best advice so far. No drama, just ease her out

Bearblue26 · 17/12/2022 11:26

I was in a similar situation. Swapped numbers as she was buying furniture from me. She contacted me a lot to begin with and I would get back to her perhaps once a week. I’ve stopped replying now and just hope I’ll never bump in to her!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 17/12/2022 11:27

Soothsayer1 · 17/12/2022 11:21

I would just take longer and longer to reply to the texts then I would ignore them all together

Me too.

panko · 17/12/2022 11:28

strawberriesplease · 17/12/2022 11:25

Best advice so far. No drama, just ease her out

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Yes do this or just block them. If you bump into them you changed your number

Dello · 17/12/2022 11:29

Just take a long time to reply and say nothing helpful.

Dello · 17/12/2022 11:30

As in don’t engage!

girlmom21 · 17/12/2022 11:31

Soothsayer1 · 17/12/2022 11:21

I would just take longer and longer to reply to the texts then I would ignore them all together

This is what I did with the same issue, but I moved much further away.

Diffuserqueen · 17/12/2022 11:32

She’s alone and struggling. Don’t block her, but do take longer to reply

to be fair I’d be curious about if the cat was a regular or if this was a new thing,

nobodygirl2023 · 17/12/2022 11:33

I'd just stop replying. If she has any real queries or complaints about the house or sale - she can contact via solicitors.

Candleabra · 17/12/2022 11:34

Don’t respond.

Grimchmas · 17/12/2022 11:36

I'd stop replying too. You'll never hear the end of it!

Sparkletastic · 17/12/2022 11:41

Do you think she might be trying to build a friendship with you?

BatshitBanshee · 17/12/2022 11:41

Is it on WhatsApp or text? If WhatsApp then "archive" the chat. It'll go into another folder and you won't see it immediately or be alerted to it unless you want to. That's what I do - then without being rude you'll take longer to answer and phase her out.

MyBooksAndMyCats · 17/12/2022 11:42

Sounds like she's trying to build a friendship with you.

If not interested reply to her texts later and later, and phase her out.

Brightstarowl · 17/12/2022 11:44

It's been one week and she's asked a perfectly reasonable question, but go ahead, blank her and ignore her also when you see her around.

Hope you feel validated by all of the self serving A-holes responses on here spitting feathers at her daring to message you for advice!

This thread makes me realise what a cold world we live in.

God forbid you show a bit of kindness!

No wonder I hate most people. They're 💩

Wont be reading any responses to this either before anyone starts.

Brightstarowl · 17/12/2022 11:47

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Imagine getting so frothy mouthed because someone asked a reasonable question one week after moving house....

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Sophhhhhh · 17/12/2022 11:47

@Brightstarowl If this was the only text I'd have from her then I'd agree with you.

But I have had daily texts, and then emails if I don't reply to the text within a few hours.

All questions are similar to the one I had last night.

I'm a single mum of 2, working full time and have Covid so forgive me if I'm starting to lose patience with the daily communication!

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KettrickenSmiled · 17/12/2022 11:51

Would I be unreasonable to text her and ask her to stop contacting me? Block her? Carry on conversations? It's a little awkward as I only moved about a 2 minute drive from my old house so likely to bump in to her!
It's not awkward. Convincing yourself it is, is just making a rod for your own back. Your transaction is complete, YANBU to simply block her now, because the catflap query is ... bonkers.
If you see her out & about, smile, give a cheery greeting & keep walking.
If you allow yourself to be waylaid, & she queries why you have blocked her (unlikely, but you are obvs worried about this), tell her that you can't help her with queries about when other people's cats are likely to be about, as you are not the neighbourhood cat wrangler, hope she's well, gotta dash, bye.

(she's a woman on her own in her 50s)
Yeah, THIS is relevant.
Obviously, if she were in her 30's, or had a man in tow, or was not female herself, my advice would have been TOTALLY different ... Hmm

KettrickenSmiled · 17/12/2022 11:54

Diffuserqueen · 17/12/2022 11:32

She’s alone and struggling. Don’t block her, but do take longer to reply

to be fair I’d be curious about if the cat was a regular or if this was a new thing,

Oh sod off with the "alone & struggling" narrative!

What makes you think she's struggling? The fact that she's single, & female?
It's entirely possible for a woman to occupy a house solo without being patronised for it.
She's not struggling - she's querulous & entitled.

Blinki · 17/12/2022 11:55

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PatientZorro · 17/12/2022 11:55

Given your update, I’d block her OP. It’s not on for her to be contacting you so frequently and not your responsibility to support her in this manner.