SIL and niece sharing a bed

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We don't live in the UK, but DH's family do. His sister has mentioned possibly coming for a visit next year with her daughter who will be 4 at the time.

My suggestion was that we would move my 13 year old daughter in with her younger sister so that DSIL and DN can have her room. She has a queen size bed, so I just assumed it would be fine for them to share the bed, but DH thinks I'm being weird and that's a crazy suggestion.

So, AIBU to think it's perfectly normal for a mother and young daughter to share a queen sized bed for a couple of weeks holiday?

I would hate for them to be uncomfortable, so willing to be told IABU so I can think of a different plan.

It sounds fine to me.

DH and 9yo DS share a bed when they go away without me. It wouldn’t occur to us to do otherwise.

DH is the weird one…

i share the bed all the time with a 3 and 4 year old, dont find it wierd at all :S id also sleep in a friends bed if needs be.

Never-ever give up your bedroom / bathroom for guests, that’s our house rule. We also politely refuse it when family offers the principal bedroom to us. It means there’s no space and it’s time to look at hotel rooms.

I share with DD still on occasion (she’s 12) but she’s always been a wriggler so weeks of sharing a bed are uncomfortable. Can you put up a small floor bed for the kid and they can either share or kiddy can camp on the floor? My DD was good on an old cot bed mattress (with bedding, pillows, etc…) until she was 5 or 6. It took up less space in a room than a full sized single camp bed.

A queen size bed really isn’t that big at all. They won’t be comfortable there, no way can two people comfortably sleep. I have one at my parents and I struggle to comfortably sleep with DS who is only 20 months and doesn’t move much.

Wouldn’t bother me in the slightest

Oh I had also been thinking this. I think anything smaller than a double probably would be too small.

So I think the answer is that it's definitely not weird to share a bed with your child but it might not be practical to share one of the bed is too small!

Could you fit a toddler mattress/bed in a box type thing on the floor?

Sorry, forgot that UK bed sizes are different. Queen size is bigger than a double, king size is the biggest. I've never understood why you guys call a bed smaller than a double "queen size". 😂

Actually, there is apparently a super king size too, but I've never seen it in the wild.

Absolutely fine.

my DNiece and her 10yo DS shared a double bed this summer when they visited from US.

our attitude is that family just mucks in and sleeps wherever there is a space.

Of course it’s ok.

I've just booked a travel lodge for DH, DS, DD and me. Part of me wonders if it will be two double beds and if so, I will share with DD (13) and DH will share with DS (15). It wouldn't occurred to me that it was weird. In fact I remember while I was at uni so probably 21 and my mother 16, we shared a bed when we went away and stayed with a uni friend of mine. It didn't feel weird to us at the time.

It’s not weird but I would just ask her if she’s happy with that. Two weeks is a long time if she’s not. 4 is very young and small, so it’s probably fine.

personally I’d rather stay in a hotel or somewhere else and have my own space and a bit of time apart from family I’m staying with, but that’s probably just me!

Like others, I'd absolutely not be offended by the suggestion but would check if there was an option for an inflatable bed / duvet on the floor as DS is incapable of sharing a bed! I ended up on the floor while he made full use of a double last time we attempted it. I think he swims in his sleep.

Absolutely fine

Gosh was so confused about posters saying a QS isn’t that big haha. Didn’t realise they are different in the UK. DH and I comfortably share a Queen size bed so I think they’re plenty big enough for an adult and a 4yo.

We had many holidays where we’d have 2 x Q or 2 x double and DH and I would share with 1 kid each. They wouldn’t share with each other as DS is a wriggler but I am a sound sleeper so I didn’t mind him walking up my back in the middle of the night.

It’s fine - I would share with teenage daughter on holiday.

Really appreciate all of these replies, thanks heaps. I'll definitely give her the choice of sharing or inflatable bed on the floor now that I'm sure they're both perfectly reasonable options!