Husband favouring other women..?

[yesterdaysfool]

I might be being a tad dramatic or possibly overly sensitive..?
My husband has done this a few times recently and I feel a bit annoyed or maybe hurt by it, so before I confront him and cause an argument or make myself look like an idiot I want to know if Mumsnet thinks I'm being unreasonable or not..
We had some friends over for dinner and I was cooking a main and dessert from scratch and was a bit excited to impress.. one of the friends comes in the kitchen and says that my husband wants her to make the dessert as he doesn't like the way I make it he prefers her method (I must say she is older mother type figure to him so not sexual or any type of attraction)
I was a bit annoyed he was basically telling everyone he didn't like my dessert
I let it slide cause I was grateful for the help
Then today we had a big family event everyone was bringing a dish or platter which I didn't know a thing about this as it's his family and he was making all arrangements.. half way to his family's house he makes a detour to another friends house (female, friend of both of ours, older, non-sexual) and picks up a big tray of food he apparently asked her to prepare for the day which she wasn't even attending I felt kind of offended that he didn't ask or tell me to make something to bring and he went out of his way to ask someone else

Not sure if im explaining this right
Obviously both good related incidents im not a bad cook before those comments start im not perfect but people always compliment my food
I just don't understand
I don't care about the food more about the fact that he's going to other people for things and not relying on me his wife and partner in life
I feel sort of underestimated and embarrassed and just like im not someone he feels close enough to which is ridiculous because we're married with 2 kids
I don't even know what im talking about anymore probably should of waited till morning to post

AIBU for feeling like that and should I not take offence and appreciate the fact that I'm a way he's saving me from doing more work

Or

Is he being unreasonable for not asking his wife to do something she is perfectly capable of doing and instead asking other females

I think you need to speak with him calmly and explain how these two moments came across to you and how they made you feel and what you would like to change in the future. I'd also ask him what his reasoning was behind doing these things, was he recognising you were busy and trying (in the wrong way) to help take some work off your shoulders? Does he think you're a good cook or does he maybe have crazy high expectations for how your daily are represented that he needs to address? I think understanding each others perspectives here would help you and being clear on what you need from him going forward would prevent this in future?

Are you guys Indian or Arab or another culture where love is expressed through food? Because this can be normal. Older women often express their love to sons through food and they express it back by complimenting their food. In that context, providing he’s not an arse in other ways, it could be normal behaviour for him. If you don’t like it then you need to put your foot down about it.

Out of interest are you both from different ethnicities and or cultures? Not that it would make this okay but would be plausible. If he's Jamaican and you're English with all the best will in the world your saltfish or oxtail will never really compare. Other than that talk to him and tell him how it has made you feel.