Husband been a selfish twat for as long as I can remember…
2x dc older teens with additional needs.
Husband Never done any house work, never done anything other than play with kids,( they think he’s great …. )
constantly tells me he will
change…. Some improvement in the form of house work when instructed . Meal when instructed.
I have had some depression and exhaustion diagnoses over the relationship period where I’ve begged him to help and he just about managed and responded.
Gets very defensive when ‘criticised’ then throws it back at me, or says ‘ I will never be good enough’
had marriage counselling … which is why he’s less lazy… but is now annoyed that I cant let go of resentment , when he’s still needed instruction to complete simple tasks.
Barely have sex. I’m not sure I even like kissing him. He doesn’t like to show any emotion other than anger when ‘ criticised I Don’t want to leave as financially not stable ( I know about benefits and I know it won’t be enough) and at a point where It would mess up older teens exams …. He’s just told me I should have ‘ fucked off a long time ago’ as he doesn’t make me happy ….
weird thing is …. I’ve looked at the women’s aid stuff and he certainly doesn’t tick several boxes in one category, but just a few in a few…. Nothing major… no violence … no control,
Do they have to be all
on the same area ?
I don’t want to sound to hung up on the women’s aid stuff…. I guess I’m asking is it unreasonable
to stay in a marriage like this rather than be alone after 20 plus years?
he is really easy going when not ‘ challenged’ and can be kind and thoughtful…. But I think the damage is done…. How long have others stretched it out ? I think I want to be alone