I’m 35.
Middle child of 3. Suffer with learning difficulties and mental health neither of which my family have emotionally supported me with my entire life. I didn’t understand that it was “normal” until I was in my 20s.
i have a part time job and live alone. I cannot work full time- although some weeks I do. Some weeks I’ll work 7 days straight, others I can barely get myself out of bed for a day. I’m incredibly lucky that my best friend is my boss and is incredibly flexible with my working hours.
Firstly, I will say this:
My parents still support me financially if I’m short in the month and need a top up for my rent or my bills. Some months they had nothing and have bailed me out which is massively appreciated, even though it gets thrown back in my face if I don’t say thank you for it every twenty seconds.
Very different from my family- middle class, posh, tories etc while I’m more working class and labour. Their idea of skint is not being able to shop in Waitrose and having to go to Aldi instead- my version of skint? Not eating for 2/3 days, or very little.
Me and my eldest sister despise each other. This came to a head earlier this year when we were celebrating my birthday and she announced my parents and younger sister would be spending Christmas with her- my parents did ask if I was OK with it, but knowing I’d be made out to be the bad guy I told them to go. I’m honestly not too bothered about being alone it’s the fact they aren’t acknowledging it like that and sister chose my birthday to announce it- which personally- I felt she did on purpose.
Elder sister has a very good job- and well done to her. Parents gave her money to pay her rent, bills, a car and everything else including an Australian trip and international flights every term (partner was abroad) but says I’m a scrubber because they give me the odd bag of shopping, top up my rent and I ask for the odd tenner if I need something. She has probably had over £50k from them, I don’t want to take off my mum and dad- she did.
I fell pregnant earlier this year and had an abortion because I knew my mum and dad would basically try and force me into it. I killed my own child because I was scared how they would react and in case it brought shame to them.
Like I said they do a lot. But if it’s a no it’s a no and I find another way, pay late etc. I really am trying my best but I still get made out to be a bum- it’s also worth saying if I’m offered something I often say “no”, they insist and then it still gets thrown back in my face.
I think my mum might be a bit of a narcissist- she will constantly bring me down, but point out the slightest thing wrong with her and you’re the worst person in the world.