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AIBU?

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To feel a tiny bit miffed

42 replies

disappointeddecember · 16/12/2022 20:32

We were invited to my friends (of around 20 years) for a weekend. Spent 3 hours last night preparing a lovely dinner to take down to theirs (I'd offered as they were busy planning a party for tomorrow night and I thought they'd have enough to do). I then drove me and my partner 3 hours to their house. Has a good meal but as soon as it finished, they insisted that what they'd like to do is teach my partner a new board game (they're very into board games. I'm not. They know this). So rather than make conversation between the four of us, there's me in a separate room and them playing a board game. AIBU to feel this is a little rude? I can't decide. I really don't have any interest in board games and whilst happy for them to enjoy this, I'm left feeling they could at least have chatted a little so I was included rather than excluded. Yes, I've excluded myself in one way by not joining in but I can't force an interest in it. I just think an hour or so chat after the meal would have been nice. I feel a bit upset tbh and can't work out id I am being unreasonable or not

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TheRookie · 16/12/2022 22:14

I think it's more rude of you to not attempt to join in. Even if you don't like board games much, you can still join in with them!

MacmillanMO · 16/12/2022 22:26

I feel your pain. DH and his family are into board games and fucking charades and stuff like that. They’re all also wildly competitive about it.

I can’t cope. His family has decided I hate them all … but it’s not personal, it’s just all the stupid games, taken far too seriously.

inthecitylateatnight · 16/12/2022 22:28

I doubt they told you to go and sit in another room. you’re the rude one for skulking off when they didn’t do what you wanted to after dinner

Bobbins36 · 16/12/2022 22:37

Bit rude to leave the room, they were your hosts and you should have put up with it for one evening.

Stompythedinosaur · 16/12/2022 23:16

They aren't excluding you by not prioritising the activity of your choice above what they want to do. You could have joined in or sat with them.

Sainte · 24/05/2023 19:15

I’d be very cross if a ‘friend’ removed themselves from the activity. Ok you brought the food. This is what friends do.
Why play the victim?
We can all do things we later regret but seems to me you’re not regretting this. By doing this, you may have ruined their evening. I wonder what they’re saying about your behaviour.

mainsfed · 24/05/2023 19:20

Don’t cook when you go to visit them, they will take you for granted.

mainsfed · 24/05/2023 19:22

Sainte · 24/05/2023 19:15

I’d be very cross if a ‘friend’ removed themselves from the activity. Ok you brought the food. This is what friends do.
Why play the victim?
We can all do things we later regret but seems to me you’re not regretting this. By doing this, you may have ruined their evening. I wonder what they’re saying about your behaviour.

They’re the rude ones. If you know a guest hates an activity, you don’t arrange that activity! Not only did they exclude her, they did it after she spent 3 hours cooking a meal for them.

They’re rude fuckers.

mainsfed · 24/05/2023 19:22

Sainte · 24/05/2023 19:15

I’d be very cross if a ‘friend’ removed themselves from the activity. Ok you brought the food. This is what friends do.
Why play the victim?
We can all do things we later regret but seems to me you’re not regretting this. By doing this, you may have ruined their evening. I wonder what they’re saying about your behaviour.

She didn’t just buy the food, she spent 3 hours cooking, FFS.

CarbonNeutral · 24/05/2023 19:23

@Sainte why have you resurrected a thread from December?!

BreviloquentBastard · 24/05/2023 19:23

Could you not just have sat with them and chatted without participating in the actual game if all you wanted to do was chat? I've never played a boardgame that was so intense I couldn't also chat and make conversation with the other players. I don't understand why you needed to sit in another room while they played?

MrsRickAstley · 24/05/2023 19:25

I think YABU. Sometimes we have to do things we don't like.

PollyAmour · 24/05/2023 19:25

Why didn't you just join in the game? Surely you could manage to fake enthusiasm for one evening?

PollyAmour · 24/05/2023 19:26

Oh damn I've just replied to a zombie.

pigsDOfly · 24/05/2023 19:31

Don't suppose it really matters now as it all happened over 5 months ago.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 24/05/2023 19:34

I imagine OP has got over it, as it was Christmas when it happened...

Sainte · 24/05/2023 19:49

Didn’t realise it was an old posting.

Wonder if it was resolved?

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